7 Fear Busting Tips To Help You Change Careers
Does Your job feel stagnant, like everyday feels the same and you can’t seem to shift the niggling feeling that there is more out there for you…if only you could put your finger on what that more is....
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It’s not even Sunday evening yet and the dread of going to work tomorrow has already sunk in. The weekend flew by filled with standard Saturday chores; laundry, cleaning, gym, boozing and before you know it, it’s Monday. Life is covered in grey again. You can’t even remember when this started but it feels like it’s always been this way and now the way you feel about work creeps into your free time.
So what do you do? Do you stay in your job, spending day after day feeling miserable, waiting for a clear exit route or do you make a bold statement and quit without knowing what to do?
I’m 32 and I’ve changed careers over 10 times. I’ve had more jobs than I can remember, some super impressive and some teaching me valuable lessons I may normally have turned my nose up at. I’ve owned my own restaurant in Panama, presented my own show for London TV, taught Hip Hop and won competitions. I’ve been a breakfast chef in Corfu, made pizzas in Cornwall, a Communication Specialist, a Sales Assistant for Karen Millen, an Assistant Television Producer and a Life Coach in Ibiza… to name just a few.
I know about changing careers. I’m a career changing Ninja
Some may frown upon my portfolio CV and say it suggests I can’t settle or hold a job down but what I know to be true is that I’ve done what most others don’t. I’ve followed my heart, stood up for my happiness and stuck a middle finger up to the fear of failure.
I’m really passionate about seeing people do well which is why I want to share my top 7 fear busting tips for quitting the job you hate to live a life you love.
7 FEAR BUSTING TIPS
1. Remember it’s YOUR LIFE
You don’t owe your employer anything. It’s a fair exchange, your time for their money. Just because a company gives you a job it does not mean you are in debt to them. Yes be grateful, yes have respect but remember that it’s all a system that you don’t have to be a part of. What I’m saying is to not allow “I feel bad leaving” get in the way of making the right choices for you, even if it’s only been a few months, there are no rules. Do what feels right for you. It’s like staying in a relationship because you don’t want to hurt someone. That never works out for anyone.
2. Let go of the wrong or right decision
If you don’t enjoy something and you haven’t for a while how can it be the wrong decision to create change? The honest truth is no one can see into the future, you will never know at the point of making a choice if it’s wrong or right. The present moment is perfect so if in hindsight you feel you should have made a different decision then it means that there’s a lesson to be learnt there for you, which in the end, makes it the right choice. The only decision you have to make is that you want to be happy and then rest will fall into place.
3. Think of the worst case scenario
All the time I hear “But what if I fail or what if it goes wrong?” and I say “Well what’s the worse case scenario? Do you die? Do you end up on the streets?” I’ve never had a yes to either of these. It’s usually “Well, I guess I go back to what I was doing before and if I have to I can move into my parents for a bit” or something similar. When you weigh everything up and compare your most likely worse case scenario against your dream ideal outcome and then weigh up the value of your dream ideal outcome, you’ll realise it’s not such a big risk at all.
4. Don’t try to figure out the “HOW?” or the “WHAT?” while you’re still working
So many people don’t leave their jobs until they know what to do. Now I know that that sounds logical but not if you can’t figure out what you want and you’re wasting precious time waiting. How can you expect to think clearly, find answers and make decisions when you feel down and are working all day? This is not the right conditions for growing ideas, insight and inspiration. In my experience 3 months has always been enough time to get the ball rolling. Instead of waiting to know what you want to do, figure out how you can give yourself a 3 month transition period. I guarantee the answers will come a lot quicker and you’ll have 24hrs a day to make it happen.
5. Stop thinking about what others will think of you if you fail
Whether you have failed or not is only a judgement you can make on yourself. Ultimately all you’re doing is choosing to do something different, which you can’t really fail at. It’s no one esle’s concern what you do with your life, so don’t make what they think yours. The people who love you will want to see you happy and will support you all the way. If you know people that bring you down or make you feel unconfident then stop hanging around with them. You need to feel at your best so only hang around with people who do just that.
6. Stop worrying about money - Money always comes.
Now I’m not saying you can quit your job and just sit on your ass, you do need to do something but worrying about it just stops you from moving forward. Worse case scenario you need to cut back, sell stuff or do a bridge job like making pizza (I did!) We’re talking about creating your dream ideal life here, the best outcomes are usually the hardest to get. What’s it worth to you? Think about what you are prepared to go without and what you’re not. Where can you make some cuts to give yourself the freedom to transition? It’s not forever, so what has more importance. Being able to buy rounds of drinks and a new handbag or following your heart, discovering your direction and fulfilling your potential.
7. Start saying it out loud
Stop waiting to feel ready and start telling people you’re going to make some change. You don’t have to know what it is but saying it out loud will send instructions to your subconscious that you’re serious which will help get you into the right gear for finding answers. The energy shifts when we make a verbal declaration. The first stage is thinking about change, the second is saying it out loud and the third is doing it.
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