Why You Should Never Fall Back On a Plan B

Do you always make sure you have a Plan B before setting off on what you really want? That Plan B could be sabotaging your A Plan

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Feb 23, 2016
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What does having a Plan B mean when we relate it to our life path?

What you’ll do if the first plan doesn’t work out, being prepared in case something goes wrong or having a back up if you need to change direction ALL seem to fit the bill, until you give it more thought.

When I was growing up I really wanted to be an actress and although I was supported by my parents they always said that just in case I failed, I needed a Plan B to fall back on. I’ve spoken to a few friends about this and they experienced something similar. If it wasn’t a steady, boring, safe office job then you needed a Plan B.

It made me wonder what might be different if my parents had said “Go for it, if you focus on just that and believe you can do it, you will succeed”

How often do you give yourself a Plan B and what does having a Plan B really say about what you believe will happen?

When I listened a little closer this is what I heard Plan B whisper.

“This is the compromise I will settle for if I fail”

“I believe something will go wrong here so I want a back up”

“It’s OK if I don’t get what I really want as I’ve decided I’m happy to fail”

Having a plan B splits your focus and dilutes the emotion behind getting what you really want. You’ve created a soft landing to “fall back on” which means you know you’re going to trip up. I don’t think anyone goes out with crutches just in case they break their leg or plasters already stuck on their head, elbows and knees in case they fall over. If you believe you’ll be ok then if you choose to change direction in the future you’ll be able to, effortlessly.

We never really know how we’ll feel in the future but we need to trust that everything will always be OK. Getting to where you really want to be in life doesn’t tend to happen overnight, you have to be committed to giving yourself what you truly deserve. To boost your belief around Plan A, ask yourself “What am I most scared of happening?” then face those fears and work through them, most of the time the potential reward of reaching your goal far outweighs the likelihood of those fears becoming true.

What we think becomes a reality. If you’re clear on what you really want for yourself, throw out your Plan B and prepare for success, not failure. Otherwise when times get hard and your goal seems further away, quitting becomes easier because that seems like an uncomplicated option.

Plan B tends to niggle away at us “Come to me, I’m ready for you, I’m a safe option, this is what you should be doing, you believe so yourself or else I wouldn’t be here”. Time to say screw you Plan B. I deserve what I really want and I believe I can have it so I’m kicking you to the curb for my first choice.

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Lydia Kimmerling

Life Coach, Spiritual Teacher, Speaker, The Happiness Explorer

Hey, I'm Lydia Kimmerling I am MAD, CRAZY, PASSIONATE about helping you to create a life you're super excited to wake up to. Being happy...ish, inspired...ish and fulfilled...ish is never quite enough, is it? When you feel like there is "more" out there for you, it's because there is. A life where you can't remember the last time you worried, stressed or doubted yourself and your friends ask you "What's your secret?" because you GLOW, SPARKLE and SHINE. That can be you and I will show you how. I got my first television job at 17, ran my own restaurant in Panama at 22, taught Hip Hop in Cornwall at 26, was cabin crew for Virgin Atlantic at 28, coached CEO's on confidence at 29, then at 30 took the leap as a certified life & business coach with The International Coaching Federation to launch my very own transformational company called The Happiness Explorer. I am a master of change, so I can tell you that there is NEVER really anything to fear, but has it always been easy? NO! I have blocks, down days and self-doubt too, life doesn't stop throwing you curve balls, it's how you catch the ball and throw it back that changes. Plus, you never know until you try, right? At 32, I now know what the key is to waking up every single day excited about the life you live. It is to know yourself inside and out and to love every part of who you are.The more you know yourself, the more of you there is to love and the more you love yourself, the more you want to give yourself a life you love. The question is…What do you really want?

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Ben Albert about 2 years ago

this totallt makes sense but what what happens when you have a family

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Ben Albert about 2 years ago

i mean this totally makes sense