How music can give you confidence

For as long as I can remember, music has always been a big part of my life. With parents who were obsessed with Motown and soul music, it was on a constant playing loop in our family home.

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Growing up through the years, I started to develop my own taste in music.  Listening to the different music genres and getting acquainted with tunes and words.

They brought meaning and depth.  It didn’t take long for songs to be associated with people or situations that I was going through.

This isn’t uncommon – we can all think back to a song that we had with a loved one or a song we had on repeat when we broke up from a relationship.  Or maybe it was a song for the summer… this was my popular choice growing through my teens into my twenties.  An uplifting feel good song that just brought that summer vibe as I’d get ready to go out with my friends, or play the song on repeat in the car with the windows wound down, sunglasses on and singing along to the good tunes.

Listening to those summer songs just felt amazing.  Growing up in the UK, we didn’t see too many hot summers, but those beats created sunshine vibes in my heart and that made summer for me.

Interestingly, I lost my way with music.

When the dark times started creeping in with broken relationships and the stress and strains of the career, my music taste matched my mood.  There were no feel good tunes on my playlist at that time, but music that woke the dark part of my soul.  Bringing a cocktail of emotions; with sadness, anger, worry, depression and anxiety.

The music complimented my life so well.

It took a while to realise the impact that music had on my mood.  It didn’t create stressful or worrying situations, but it didn't help my emotions or how I was handling things as I'd fall deeper into the sounds and words of a dark song.

Today, I have such an eclectic taste of music and have learnt when I need to ‘switch’ the beats.

After discovering the impact of music and how it could make me feel, I started to create playlists (ah the joys of Spotify!) that I would play to shift my mindset or my mood.

The real winner for me though was getting a power song. 

I used to struggle with big meetings at work. I would sink at the thought of giving updates to a large room of people, or dealing with the challenges my peers would throw at me in front of each other which completely destroyed my confidence and ability to do my job.  So, I took my new found music knowledge and applied this to my work life.

Making a note of all the songs that made me reinforced my inner power.  Gave me the confidence to walk in and own the room for my updates.  Ricochet the ego comments from my peers  that I wouldn’t stumble on my words, go bright red or sink into my chair.

A few started to get on the 'Power Song Playlist' – Katy Perry with Firework, Snap with You’ve Got The Power to Alicia Keys with Girl on Fire. 

On my way into the office, I’d play this song to get me in my inner power zone.  The first time I did it, was immense.  I owned my update in the large meeting room and allowed my personality to shine through with my confidence and knowledge.  The wave of adrenaline swept across me knowing that I had rocked it.

This has become one of the biggest mood shifting exercises across all areas of my life.

Days where I don’t feel great, I revert to my ‘Feel Good Playlist’ and days where I need to kick myself into action I take to my ‘Motivational Songs Playlist’.

Music is so incredible and powerful.

I encourage you to notice how music affects your life and introduce mood shifters into your personal wellbeing toolkit.  

Go all out and get yourself your very own power song… you deserve it.

Josie Copsey

Life Change Expert, Author, Mentor, Josie Copsey Ltd

Career changes, figuring out the perfect job, building incredible leaders and wellbeing are my jam. But before all of this, there was a corporate girl who had to go through quite a few setbacks, lessons and experiences. Ambitious, driven and focused I built a very successful change and training career that spanned over two decades. Helping leadership teams of large companies to transform their business. But back in 2013 I had enough. I was lost and didn’t recognise who I was anymore. A combination of being professionally bullied, suffering with burnout from working 12-hour days and zero personal life had done me in. My corporate work life had taken over me, I was selling my soul to a job and my health was suffering as a result. I took action and quit the job. Getting clear on my career was the ultimate light-bulb moment for me. But, there had been no definitive path in how I go about making this career change happen; all I knew was what I wanted to do and my determination and focus guided me through. I’m a gal who loves to plan and organise – a couple of my superpowers – so I documented every step and action I took knowing that one day, this would help others just like me. Those who have an idea on what they want to do, but unsure how to make it happen. Those who feel lost and hate their job, but don’t know what to do. Those who are stuck and looking for direction. I teach what I’ve done personally to build a career doing what I love and living the life I want. I’m all about taking action; you tell me what you want and I’ll show you how to make it happen. It is absolutely possible and achievable to be in a job you love; a job that brings you purpose and job satisfaction. You’re here for a reason. Your talents, your heart, your passion – you are one of a kind.