Decision Making Made Easy
Knowing which decisions to make can be simpler than you think!
Firstly, I know sometimes we have to make decisions to do things that we may not jump at the prospect of doing. Or, we feel like we don’t really have a choice because at the end of the day we have responsibilities, people to take care of and so on.
This is more about decision making when you have a real choice. Whether that choice is about attending a social gathering, learning a new skill, taking a new job, starting/ ending a relationship, spending money on something, moving abroad etc. It’s all choices, decisions to be made.
So how do you make your decisions?
I could get into the complexities of how we decide what to do based on societal pressure, childhood psychological conditioning, family opinions, belief systems and so on. All of that does play a role and is totally relevant. I think it’s really valuable to learn about how these things tick inside of you.
BUT, equally, I think we can keep it really simple:
When presented with a decision, how do you feel?
No – not how do you ‘think’, how do you FEEL?
Yes some thinking and logic may be applied, but that can be secondary to your initial intuitive feeling. Your feelings are talking to you, all the time. Let’s say you’re at a crossroads and need to make a choice:
- What do you feel is right?
- What’s your intuition, instinct telling you? This is such a powerful source of guidance, if you struggle to hear/ feel yours, read this.
- What’s the choice that makes you excited, inspired?
- What pulls you?
- What brings you consistent relief?
- What ‘just makes sense’?
- What do you just ‘know’ has to be done, or not done?
- What feels authentic, light, freeing, unburdening, expanding?
- What is unquestionable?
- What needs no input from anyone but you and your own heart?
- What is going so strongly in one direction that nothing could drag you from it?
DECIDE TO DO THESE THINGS!
In other words, if it’s not a ‘hell yeah!’ it’s a ‘no’
I learned that awesome phrase from the wonderful author James Altucher. It is my life motto! Now, something could be a ‘no’ due to timing, or maybe it really is a point blank no. Either way, why waste your precious time and energy on it any further? Only follow the hell yeahs! of your life!
Regarding painful decisions, granted these are unlikely to leave you shouting ‘hell yeah!’. But the same principle still applies. I’ve heard it expressed as wild horses not being able to drag you away from something; however painful it is, it simply has to be done.
As a sign off – if you are all ‘messy’ in mind, full of mental and emotional turmoil caused by overthinking, you’re less likely to be able to ‘hear’ the true ‘hell yeahs!’. So work on clearing that mind and honing in on your intuition and inner guidance.
As a disclaimer – this post is not an invitation for people to go and do harmful, nutty things just because they thought it was a ‘hell yeah!’. Let’s be sensible :)
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