Finding Your Voice

When you find your voice, you find your self-worth

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Finding your voice is an important process in self-development and personal growth. It is the process of learning to be genuine with yourself and with others. It is a process of increasing the acceptance of yourself, as you are, with all of your strengths, as well as your weaknesses. Many people reach out for personal therapy to find their voice.  

Social acceptance is often a significant area of concern for those struggling with anxiety. Often our desire is to please others and avoid any type of social rejection. In many circles it is the societal norm to gain acceptance; approval; and validation from others.  Sadly, any excessive focus on these desires can potentially inhibit our ability to be assertive; to set boundaries and to be able to be genuine and stay in touch with our inner voice.

Finding your voice is often an area of struggle for many people who have had issues with anxiety, fears, and worries.   In the process of discovering your inner voice, it’s imperative to begin with developing self-acceptance where you are able to embrace your flaws and acknowledge your areas of strength. In the process we examine the nurturer and the critic within. This is key because it allows you to be kind to yourself and examine the root causes of self-judgment and criticism. 

The practice of finding your voice involves developing greater self-awareness and is extremely beneficial in improving your interactions with others. The more you know who you are and what you stand for, others can gain a better understanding on your intentions and desires, without you hiding or minimising your thoughts and feelings.   The journey towards finding your inner voice is an actualisation of your true self, without the façade or pretenses that you may have acquired throughout your life.

When you accept yourself fully, you are less reliant on the opinions and feedback from others. You are more focused on your own beliefs about who you are, rather than the beliefs of friends and family. This is where you can find your voice, your own voice, because you grow to realize that your perception of yourself and your ability to love and accept yourself is where you will find your autonomy.

As you develop your awareness you will feel less a need to filter your thoughts and feelings and instead you will gain confidence in expressing yourself genuinely. Social acceptance also becomes less important because you accept and love yourself, which holds more weight than what others may believe or assume about you.

Clients have shared that over time their relationships with others have improved. When you are able to express your inner voice, relationships that don’t suit you or that are toxic can begin to appear less crucial to you.  By being genuine with yourself, you are not molding yourself to what others want from you or for you. Those individuals that liked the side of you that sought acceptance may not like this new and more genuine version of you. The relationships that you do keep will be healthy and mutually enjoyable.  They will also be stronger and more meaningful, because your friends will no longer have to assume what’s going on for you. When you find your voice, you find your self-worth.

Stay Well

Samantha Carbon
Psychotherapist - MSc Psych, PTSTA (P), CTA (P), UKCP, MBACP
Clinical Supervisor
Mobile: 07938435233

Samantha Carbon UKCP Psychotherapist

Samantha Carbon is a psychotherapist running a private practice. Following a background in the financial industry, Samantha set out to follow her true passion and pursue her training as a psychotherapist. Today, Samantha assists people in the process of finding the peace of mind they deserve. In particular she works with individuals with a history of addictive behaviours such as alcohol, drugs, sex & gambling. She works with individuals who experience depression, anxiety, loss, work related stresses and gender dysphoria, as well as couples. She is dedicated to supporting people to identify their self-worth and improve the quality of their lives. She works with corporates in understanding workplace diversity, understanding intolerances and biases.