Proof that achieving dreams can make you UNhappy!

I’m totes confused. I never use the word totes. It means totally, right?! Maybe I’m trying to be cool and hip. ;) Back to the point! I’m experiencing amazing things right now ...

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I’m totes confused. I never use the word totes. It means totally, right?! Maybe I’m trying to be cool and hip. ;)

Back to the point! I’m experiencing amazing things right now – to be in the top 5 new voices selected by Hay House and Psychologies is amazing. Whether or not I win, it’s such a blessing. This is part of my dreams. And achieving dreams equals happiness right?

Well, at first I was super excited and happy. But once I loaded my profile up to Life Labs, about 24 hours later the anxiety hit. 48 hours later, more fear. 72 hours later? I literally broke down.

Who breaks down 3 days into an amazing opportunity!? Apparently I do.

So as with everything – I asked ‘why’?

I felt into it and sought intuitive clarity on what was going on. The surface reason I broke down is that I wasn’t getting many votes. Yes I know it’s only a few days in… and I know this is about my creative work and enjoying the journey… and I know that what will be will be.

BUT the deeper reason I broke down is that my insecurities about not being good enough, my feelings of being unworthy of an audience and fears of rejection by that audience, were being triggered big time. More than ever before.

I’ve never been this exposed, I’ve never felt so much like I could fail, let alone in front of a large audience. What if I squander this opportunity and it leaves me no better of? I’d feel so ashamed.

These insecurities, fears and shame are not being caused by this competition. Like many of us, I learned them in childhood and carry them into many areas of my adult life.

So what did I do?

Well, first I cried! Which I don’t do often so I’m glad I got that out as it’s very healthy. I’d like to do it more!! :) And then I let it all simmer and process. I know that when deep seated, painful emotions come to the surface like this, it’s because they are ready to be released. So embrace that, and let them out.

Perhaps when you are on an expansive path of growth, which living your soul’s purpose no doubt is, you have to break down the old before you can build the new. You have to de-clutter, to make space inside. You have to remove beliefs that no longer serve you, to make way for ones that do. And removing all that old stuff, bringing it up and out, is painful.

I’m still feeling a bit fragile – I think I will for a while. But at least I know what’s happening - a wonderful process of healing, growth and expansion on the path of my dreams. Growing pains. :)

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Psychologies and Hay House ran a competition in January 2016 to find the wisest new voice for 2016. We have now shortlisted our favourite five entrants. We were looking for a fresh and distinctive voice with a relevant message for our current times. If you enjoyed Pinky's entry then please vote.

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Pinky Jangra

Founder, Pinky and Her Brain - Life Lessons

Pinky Jangra is on a mission to help people to become more self-aware and learn to take care of their emotional, psychological and spiritual wellbeing. Although we don’t get taught these things at school, Pinky believes that they are absolutely paramount to our success, happiness and fulfilment in life. Being self-aware not only allows us to tune into this wonderful universe and experience life to its fullest, it also leaves us well equipped to handle any challenges that inevitably come our way. Pinky teaches through multiple mediums including blogs, videos, live workshops and events and she even draws cartoons - Mr Stick is one her most popular creations! Her experience, knowledge and inspiration come from everyday life, 10 years (and counting) of personal growth and her work and study in behavioural and biological science. She really believes that all the answers about our lives are already inside us! Sometimes, we just need a little help to find them :)

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