When everything feels just a bit too much

Money worries, work anxiety, family concerns can all contribute to stress, anxiety and depression. Overwhelm can build up and it can start to feel like there is no way out.

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According to research carried out by Mind - the mental health charity organisation - 1 in 4 people in the UK will experience a mental health problem each year.

Life can feel tough at times.  Life challenges and stressful situations at both work and home are on the increase.

Looking over trends from the last 10 years; our lives have got busier, more demanding and our self-care and downtime is being absorbed with technology and other life priorities.

But what is the impact of this and what is it costing on our own mental health?

I for one, have felt that pain.  I’ve learnt that it’s about recognising when things start to feel just a bit too much and knowing when to say… STOP.  Let’s take a moment to stop, breathe and re-evaluate a few things right now.

There are some fantastic resources now available to help and there is now a greater awareness out in mainstream media and other channels.  More than ever it's important to talk about it.

Far too many of us feel that we will be seen as a failure if we share that we're struggling.  But what I've learnt is that by speaking up on how we are feeling or what's causing us some angst right now actually helps others to open up too.  This creates empathy.  We are creating a space that demonstrates you're not going through this alone, and if someone else hears this they too can feel at ease about opening up about what's happening in their world.

Also, voicing out where we are struggling can often help to put things into perspective.  Our head is particularly good at making something sound worse than what it is.  When we verbally speak our worries or concerns, it can often help us to see that it's not as bad as we had originally thought.  Creating a feeling of relief.

Another way is to put everything out in front of you - to see what can be done and what can change.

If you've been feeling that pain or struggle recently, then I invite you to join me in this exercise.  

1. Write out what's swirling around your head - the worries, things that are causing you stress.  Get everything out on the paper. You can be as fancy as you like or you can create a spider-gram pulling off each area of your life with those worries going on for you right now.

2. Look over each of those worries individually.  For each one, think about how they can be eased for you right now.  Is it a case of talking to someone at home or work/school?  Or do you need to do something to ease the worry so that it's not too intense in your life right now.

3. Take action on what you can change.  From your list, start taking action gradually on those 'smaller' items that are causing you worry and look at what can be done for those things that seem too big to handle right now.  Is there a way you can perhaps pass these on or ask for help?

4. Celebrate the wins! Easing your worries and stresses is a HUGE achievement, so be sure to do something to acknowledge your accomplishments, including completing this exercise!  It doesn't have to be extravagant, but take that time to recognise that you've done a big thing here and taking the steps to ease those concerning and stressful worries in your life right now.

This is just one of the many techniques that you can try in your life to help ease the stress and bring back a sense of control in your life right now.  

Check out my further posts here on Psychologies Life Labs for more information on what you can do to help bring balance in your work and life in general.

Josie Copsey

Life Change Expert, Author, Mentor, Josie Copsey Ltd

Career changes, figuring out the perfect job, building incredible leaders and wellbeing are my jam. But before all of this, there was a corporate girl who had to go through quite a few setbacks, lessons and experiences. Ambitious, driven and focused I built a very successful change and training career that spanned over two decades. Helping leadership teams of large companies to transform their business. But back in 2013 I had enough. I was lost and didn’t recognise who I was anymore. A combination of being professionally bullied, suffering with burnout from working 12-hour days and zero personal life had done me in. My corporate work life had taken over me, I was selling my soul to a job and my health was suffering as a result. I took action and quit the job. Getting clear on my career was the ultimate light-bulb moment for me. But, there had been no definitive path in how I go about making this career change happen; all I knew was what I wanted to do and my determination and focus guided me through. I’m a gal who loves to plan and organise – a couple of my superpowers – so I documented every step and action I took knowing that one day, this would help others just like me. Those who have an idea on what they want to do, but unsure how to make it happen. Those who feel lost and hate their job, but don’t know what to do. Those who are stuck and looking for direction. I teach what I’ve done personally to build a career doing what I love and living the life I want. I’m all about taking action; you tell me what you want and I’ll show you how to make it happen. It is absolutely possible and achievable to be in a job you love; a job that brings you purpose and job satisfaction. You’re here for a reason. Your talents, your heart, your passion – you are one of a kind.