30's midlife crisis, or beautiful realisation?

A best friend of mine is going through that thing – you know that thing where you start questioning what you are doing with your life?

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A best friend of mine is going through that thing – you know that thing where you start questioning what you are doing with your life? Whether your current career is really all there is? You know it’s not making you fully happy and you feel that inner squirm telling you something’s up. I know many people going through this.

And what did my friend call it? A midlife crisis.

I notice more people are having this ‘crisis’ at a younger age, around the 30’s. I did the same with Pinky and Her Brain. Even though I knew with every fibre of my being that this is what I needed to pursue, I still found myself ‘justifying’ and ‘dismissing’ it as a mid-life crisis on occasion.

There’s so much negativity attached to this term, the age old image of the 40 year old who buys a leather jacket and a motorcycle or sports car. It implies you’ve lost the plot and gone a bit loopy.

When in fact, you have done the opposite.

You’ve lived enough life to know what’s up. And you’ve lived enough faking to know what’s true.

Your soul is telling you that change is afoot

The time is now. You are growing, you are yearning to express your unique truth as opposed to the fakery that society tells you to live.

It’s ok. It’s more than ok. It’s a blessing! If you take this opportunity to make change, you have a chance to thoroughly enjoy the next half of your life – because when you follow your truth, joy abounds.

I don’t know where the idea came from that ‘changing’ is a bad thing. It feels very fear based. Perhaps it’s from older generations where financial security was hard to come by, it was the number one priority and the norm was to have one job your whole life.

But we don’t live in that world anymore. So...

It’s time to re-write the script

Opportunity abounds us these days, we’re a lucky generation. We are largely secure - how many of you reading this are struggling to put food on the table or don’t have a roof over your head? Very few. The number of industries and companies to work for is huge. The opportunity to learn new skills or take control of your own employment and income is massive thanks to the internet.

Don’t be so quick to dismiss your inner guidance as a midlife crisis. It’s a beautiful realisation and an opportunity to make the rest of your precious time here on earth so much more fulfilling. Be grateful and take the opportunity!


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Pinky Jangra

Founder, Pinky and Her Brain - Life Lessons

Pinky Jangra is on a mission to help people to become more self-aware and learn to take care of their emotional, psychological and spiritual wellbeing. Although we don’t get taught these things at school, Pinky believes that they are absolutely paramount to our success, happiness and fulfilment in life. Being self-aware not only allows us to tune into this wonderful universe and experience life to its fullest, it also leaves us well equipped to handle any challenges that inevitably come our way. Pinky teaches through multiple mediums including blogs, videos, live workshops and events and she even draws cartoons - Mr Stick is one her most popular creations! Her experience, knowledge and inspiration come from everyday life, 10 years (and counting) of personal growth and her work and study in behavioural and biological science. She really believes that all the answers about our lives are already inside us! Sometimes, we just need a little help to find them :)


Go to the profile of Sophie Deacon
almost 6 years ago
It's not easy, but I've been in this situation and am gradually managing to rewrite my script with a new job and embracing single life.
Go to the profile of Pinky Jangra
almost 6 years ago
Hi Sarah - I think it's awesome that you are on this path of change! It's definitely hard sometimes, I'm going through it myself and I have to keep reminding myself to hang on through the low points, the uncertainties, the fears. To quote Dory from Finding Nemo (what better place to source profound quotes haha) 'just keep swimming, just keep swimming'! We have to keep faith and keep moving :) xx