If there's one thing I learned about my marriage is this:
Give him the benefice of the doubt
Why? Because it's very easy to judge your partner when somethings goes wrong or when he did not tidy up the living room or the food shopping in the fridge like you wanted to. Yes, we all know that, we love them and sometimes you just want to call a friend and complain, complain, gossip about your man.
But there is a better and effective solution.
Before to judge him, give him the benefit of doubt.
It's a fantastic tool to dis-empower the negative impact of your judgement and give space to something different. It's impossible to know the background or story behind any habit/behaviour, it's more wise to accept that not everything is under your control and trust that your partner is trying the best he can. This is what I call being patient and compassionate.
When you think about it, would you like to be judged without having a chance to explain yourself ? I guess that your response is no.
So, in this scenario, when you give him the benefice of the doubt, you show him the way you would like to be treated if you were in his shoes. Additionally, compassion, no judgement and kindness are qualities to cultivate for a relationship to last.
This tool can be used for any relationship and is truly a tool which bring more peace, harmony and love in any relationship.
Give it a try, you have nothing to lose and everything to win.
With love, joy and trust