What psychotherapy and early years care have in common

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An early years setting asked me recently what I thought quality time with a young child meant. I was impressed they were asking, and so took some time to think about it.  Here's what I wrote:

It's time when adult and child give each other full attention, and are emotionally attuned.  When they attune repeatedly, the world becomes safe for the child, and she learns she can trust people.  That means she can play and experiment, she can take risks and try new things knowing she will be supported.  Any experience can be made a quality one, it's not what you do its how you do it, it's how you attend to your child.  It's about being grounded, and open, and offering your emotional availability so that you can contain your child, and so help them learn how to contain themselves. It's about being present and spontaneous, and meeting the child where they are, not where you wish they were.

When I read back what I had written, the parallel with psychotherapy made me smile. This is what therapy is all about too, just with two adults rather than a parent and child.  It's about quality of attending, about relationship, and about attunement.

Fe Robinson, Psychotherapist

Hi. I'm Fe, and I'm here to help you thrive, whatever life brings. I believe every client is unique, I work with you to help you explore, discover and grow in whatever ways are right for you. I work with a wide range of clients, both long and short term. I offer Psychotherapy, EMDR therapy and Couples Counselling to UK clients online and in Gainford, Co.Durham in North-East England. I am UKCP Accredited and an EMDR Europe Practitioner, and offer Clinical Supervision to counsellors and psychotherapists online and in person. Following a career in Organisation Development I became a therapist because it's my heart work. Before having my family and starting my private practice I worked in the NHS and mental health charities.