Reviewing Successes

It’s been over a year of self-assessment and journalling with Life Labs. Did I learn anything?

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The last time I was around and about on the Life Labs block I said that I would share a few recent successes, and I have to admit there is no denying, these successes would not have happened without the recent support and encouragement I have received peripherally from Psychologies Magazine articles.

I will cut straight into the detail because, I’m up at the crazy hour of five in the morning, proving to myself, that this is something I truly want – the whole writing and reading profession generates a feeling of super contentment.  

That little word profession, it niggles at me every now and again, because, ‘profession’ is often assumed to include ‘income’.  I could chat for hours about how income creates a level of dependency. How the professional might choose to manage the triggered emotions and thoughts generated by the word ‘dependency’ can be the game changer. Although, I won’t chat about this today. I am here to talk about a few recent successes.

I will list them here:

  • This week I have achieved a goal. I have been a non-meat eater for one whole year - 

I am so very proud of myself. As I pat myself on the shoulder. I don’t need to pat myself on the shoulder really because I’ve noticed that my family and peer group have truly accepted that this is my choice -I have my own reasons - and they’ve become supportive. Quorn has become the new flavour at the dinner table, more veggies and more fruit. Nutritionally, I feel better and the impact of my recent change has created a teeny ripple of awareness for my children too. Awareness was never part of the plan, it is a bonus addition.

I honestly feel great. 

  • Four years ago, I decided it was time for a huge career shift. I wanted to be a writer, come Author - move over Office Manager, Administrator and Mother - I wanted to share my poetry and prose with the world - 

I have come to learn in the last four years that I am certainly not alone with this dream. I have met so many keen writers, spoken to a few authors, and emailed a few entertainers, because my passion for the entertaining world of words was and still is strong. I waivered in 2017 because I believed the process of self-publishing and turning my words into lyrical enchantments had hit a wall of self-doubt. The whole learning process was taking so long. I was fed up of emotional dependency. I’ve pushed through, grabbed a hammer knocking down the wall, to listen and realise, that I can self-publish in paper-back nowadays.

In 2018 I self-trained in product structure (the product being the book), and in March 2019 I received my first proof of a book of poetry called Chasing Stars.  Part of me wants to stop there at this point, suspend time and idolize the book in its paper-flesh. It’s evidence. The evidence alone, is, I believe, what I had been hoping to achieve.

I am feeling quite accomplished at the moment.

  • During the four years of change, I shouldn't ignore I should celebrate that I parented, kept house (office managed), wrote my life and time away (administrated) and read (professors call reading, research). I stumbled upon a few texts that challenged my imagination. I could debate that my circumstances often felt like an illusion, doing all of this for free, what madness?! Most women wanted to be independent nowadays, have their own income and be sustainable. Was I the ‘classic dependant housewife? Hiding behind the profession of practising writer. Was I a fraud?

I feel content to be able to offer myself an answer to these questions, thanks to quite a lot of self-awareness journalling, self-coaching, participating, networking, connecting, focusing and achieving goals in recent years and months. A passionate 'Professional' will focus on the task, sees the goal, and rarely quantifies or determines an income evaluation relative to the task.  Success. It can be achieved alone, it may take time. Although I would argue from experience that it’s much more fun, exciting and energising when collaborating, networking and being dependent upon and alongside others.

I could chat for hours about how income creates a dependency, and how the professional might choose to manage the triggered feelings and thoughts generated by the word ‘dependency’, it can be the game changer. Not today. I am focusing on the value of achievement. [This is intentionally written twice. Call it a process of reinforcement.]

After celebrating my recent achievements, I've taken a look at the self-coaching 'wheel of life', February 2019, and on reflection, back in February 2018 I had changed the segments ‘Money’ and ‘Career’ into ‘Writing’ and ‘Networking’. Changing the segments to suit my past-present demands, it worked for me. I have attended a number of courses and met some amazing new people. The networking prompted me to question the word 'dependant' again. Do I want to be independent? Do I need to be earning and self-sustainable in this new age of gender equality?

This year, I haven’t changed the segments of the wheel of life this year, and I duly note that ‘Money’ and ‘Career’ are certainly empty spaces right now. I hope to see these segments change and improve in 2019. This is my goal for 2019 with Psychologies Magazine alongside.

Wish me luck.

Are you on board the Life-Lab train? How is it going? Are you enjoying the journey so far? 

Julie x

NB: A final achievement for today, is in noting that free images from Pixabay, without quality care and attention to detail and instruction, they may appear a little fuzzy. There is always something to learn and improve on. Enjoy making a few mistakes along the way, enjoy the process of learning.

Julie Spencer

Ambassador and Learning Support Assistant, Psychologies Magazine

Proud Ambassador for Psychologies Magazine. The magazine encapsulates many of my core values: being kind, have compassion, look after your health and wellbeing, be professional and be supportive of others. A little self belief can go a long way. I have studied as a mature student. I went into a writing frenzy and spent 3 years writing in solitude. I was a stay at home mum, too. What I learned: being alone for long periods of time is bad for your health and wellbeing. Thanks to a little nudge from Psychologies Magazine I am reconnecting and rebuilding my C.V. I'm a creative. I have lots of ideas and I need to constantly realign my focus onto one project at a time. Until recently I had a real fear for public speaking, but after reading a book that suggested I acknowledge my fears and challenge them anyway; with the support of the Psychologies community and more I'm working through my fears one blog at a time.