10 questions to ask yourself before your first psychotherapy session

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Psychotherapy is an investment. You invest your time, energy and your money because you want things to be different. Like any investment, it's useful to be prepared and to know what is important to you about psychotherapy. This will help you to find the right person to work with and keep you focused on the things you most want to address.

To get the process started before you meet with your therapist, it might be worth asking yourself the following ten questions to get you thinking, so that you can make good use of that first meeting to explore what matters:

1. What brings you to therapy?

2. Why now?

3. What are your goals for therapy? 

4. What will be difference once your goals have been met?

5. How important is this to you? What benefits will it bring?

6. How will you know when your goals are met?

7. What's your understanding of the issues?

8. How do you think change might occur?

9. What are you prepared to commit to do differently to meet your goals?

10. What are you prepared to let go of to move forwards?

It's not about perfection or getting it right. It is about starting a thought process, about becoming aware of emotions and about taking ownership for this next step in your personal journey. If you're considering psychotherapy, why not take some time to reflect on these questions before your first session?

Having a clear idea about what you want to achieve in psychotherapy means you can review your progress regularly and make sure you are spending time talking about what matters. Bear in mind that there may be many things related to moving forwards and it's not always obvious what is and what is not connected. Psychotherapy is a place where you can explore this and find the connections that liberate you from your troubles. 

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Fe Robinson, Psychotherapist

Hi. I'm Fe, and I'm here to help you thrive, whatever life brings. I believe every client is unique, I work with you to help you explore, discover and grow in whatever ways are right for you. I work with a wide range of clients, both long and short term. I offer Psychotherapy, EMDR therapy and Couples Counselling to UK clients online and in Gainford, Co.Durham in North-East England. I am UKCP Accredited and an EMDR Europe Practitioner, and offer Clinical Supervision to counsellors and psychotherapists online and in person. Following a career in Organisation Development I became a therapist because it's my heart work. Before having my family and starting my private practice I worked in the NHS and mental health charities.