Back to the future…

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“I just don’t know what I want to do next.” My client, Emily, is frustrated and frankly feeling desperate. I feel her pain. I have stood in her shoes. I remember the endless worries and questions which seemed to be “on repeat” in my head when I wanted to change my job. Emily is not desperately unhappy in her job. It isn’t as though she hates it. She mentions this a few times. Emily tells me she doesn’t get that sinking feeling on a Sunday evening knowing Monday morning is looming. I think we can all relate to that at one time in our lives! In fact, Emily loves the company, the people and what the business does.  But, something has changed and her actual role no longer makes her happy. I sense, as she sits in front of me, that she wants me to give her the answer and tell her what to do next. It is almost as though Emily is willing me to just tell her.

Time to travel back in time

Emily identifies 4 jobs she wants to revisit, starting with her current position, and working backwards. I am keen to know what she has achieved, what has she enjoyed, what made her apply for it in the first place and what she thought her boss or colleagues thought of her. We celebrated her successes. I am keeping notes of all the key points she remembers. We move on to the next job and her body language changes completely. Her voice is far less animated and there is no enthusiasm. I am keen to explore with her what happened whilst in this job. I ask similar questions. This time Emily tells me that the atmosphere in the office was uncomfortable most of the time. People didn’t really talk. It was almost unfriendly. Needless to say she didn’t stay long in that role. We move on to the next job couple of jobs following the same process of highlighting successes, achievements, qualities and skills she demonstrated.

After we had taken the trip down memory lane, we went to the starting point again and I replayed all the keys points to her. Her face beamed with a mixture of pride and disbelief. Emily had forgotten much of what she had done and not given it much thought before now. She also commented on how, at the time, each new job had felt like luck or accidental whereas now she could see underlying themes and connections between them all.

What does the future hold?

Now Emily feels she has a better idea of what she is looking for in her next role. By simply knowing what she wants and needs in a company or in a job means she is far more likely to know when she finds it.

“Your future hasn’t been written yet. No one’s has. Your future is whatever you make it. So, make it a good one.” – Doc Brown, Back to the Future

Lucy Tulloch

Leadership, Team & Career Coach, Lucy Tulloch Coaching

I coach clients to achieve fundamental shifts in how they think and behave to achieve long lasting change. I’m passionate about the development of people, culture and performance and specialise in four areas of coaching: ⭐Career coaching - I help ambitious women who want to change what they are doing now - to start a new job, career or business. - I will help you to answer your ‘what next?’ question. - Identify what purposeful and valuable work looks like for you. - Actively take steps towards achieving your goals, ambitions and dreams. ⭐Coaching skills for working parents - Are you an ambitious, professional who is loyal to their business but juggling the parenting side at the same time? Are you a working parent stressed out trying to deliver results at work and be a great parent without dropping any balls? - I can help working parents to be less stressed and more confident as parents so they can win at home and deliver their best performance at work ⭐Leadership Coaching - I help leaders feel focussed, energised and motivated. - I will support you in finding the headspace to be more creative and innovative. - I work with leaders 1:1 or as part of a team. ⭐Team Coaching - Is your team delivering its best performance or are people just coasting along? Are they resilient to challenging times or feeling the stress and pressure of hitting targets? - I provide team coaching which will enable your team to deliver a consistently high level of performance. - I will enable your team to be engaged, driven and focussed on results I coach from experience. I am passionate about what I do because I have personal experience of the challenges faced by many of my clients. For 20 years I worked within the travel industry specialising in Tour Operations. I was responsible for change and crisis management as well as managing a number of high performing teams. I believe that we can all make an incredible difference individually and as part of a team with the right communication, collaboration, vision and culture. I’d love to help you get started. I live in Oxfordshire with my patient and supportive husband and our two children and energetic dog. I would love to explore in more detail how I can help you build confidence, clarity and results. To find out more visit https://www.lucytullochcoaching.co.uk to arrange a no-obligation call. Coaching credentials Post Graduate in Business & Personal Coaching Tilt365 Master Practitioner (psychometric profiling) PCC - International Coach Federation member Member of National Council for Psychotherapist

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