Lessons in Love

My second attempt in the ‘Share the Love’ experiment with my 17 year old son.

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Have you ever tried to talk about feelings to a teenage boy? Don’t get me wrong, as they go he’s lovely, he’s leggy, he’s cheeky and he’s mine. Having lived, just the two of us since he was a toddler I’d like to think we have a pretty good understanding. At home we flow around each other, coming and going into rooms, congregating at meal times generally and on the sofa to view our shared favourite crime dramas because even at 17 and despite the bravado he still gets a bit anxious with anything remotely dark comes on the television. .

I think we have a good relationship with genuine respect and good communications apart from the odd spat which is usually about the amount of food which disappears on the day of purchase or the general disregard to switching electrical things off.

My son is the only person I regularly say ‘I love you’ to. Despite my previous post I do think it’s important for young people to know they are loved unconditionally. Growing up is hard enough.

My heart swells with love and pride when this 6ft 4” man-boy enters the room.

Having recently had a knee operation following a rugby injury he has been spending more time at home than of late so we decided to do some late night shopping just before Christmas Eve which resulted in a Nando’s. I thought this would be my perfect opportunity for a face to face attempt at this experiment. As I gazed at him as he studied the menu I realised he would think I was even more weird than he already does. He looked up and said ‘why are you staring at me and why is this menu so complicated?’ I replied ‘because I love you- I think you are gorgeous and great and I am so proud of you. ‘ He sighed and said ‘ I know that Mam and I love you.’ So that was it. I concluded he is the one person in my life who without doubt knows he is loved. Well I haven’t done bad job I thought so I’ll keep on doing what I’m doing with this one.

Fiona Dolben

Acupuncturist, holistic therapist, content creator., Hemp Holisitics

I'm a single parent of ONE lovely lanky teenager.. I live in deepest rural Wales . My 'proper' job is in marketing and events but I am also a trained reflexologist, masseur and reiki giver (go figure!) I also look after my Mum who is in her late 80's, my dog Ted, my cat Black and my hens and goldfish...my dream is to have a small holding and offer people holidays in my teepee and maybe the odd therapy ....so as you can see I am a mass of contradictions.... I like to walk, do yoga, eat salad and visit new places but I also like to drive fast, Feast ice lollies, vodka on Friday's with friends(, which leads to dancing in my kitchen) my coffee , and staying up late... I can be outgoing but also extremely shy so like the rest of you I am still trying to figure it out one day at a time...


Go to the profile of Sarah-Kate Goodwin
about 6 years ago
The sincerity of your writing is so lovely to read Fiona. As someone who tends to be very sentimental I find myself wanting to tell close ones what I love about them all the time. BUt I have often considered do I sound weird' or 'intense' or like somethings wrong. The simple, matter of fact way you told your son what he already knows is just beautiful. I'm glad you got a lot from it. From a fellow master of contradictions to another 😁
Go to the profile of Fiona Dolben
about 6 years ago
Oh that is so lovely of you to say Sarah-Kate. I'm still getting used to this opening up lark but and still a little anxious of posting. Perhaps it will become easier with practice and welcome to the party indeed. :)