Turn your New Year's Resolutions into 'sticky' SMART goals. Here's how...

A few days into 2016 and you may already be beating yourself up for breaking that New year’s Resolution once again?

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Jan 12, 2016
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Perhaps even now a small, judgemental voice inside is reproaching you for your lack of commitment and willpower. You told yourself, this year you would eat healthier, cut back on the booze, practise mindfulness or blog every day? Now, as you sit back on the sofa with a ‘well deserved glass of wine’ after a hard day’s work, you wonder where the motivation went ……and how you might get it back?

If you've broken your New Year’s resolution just a few days in, it might help you to know you are not alone. According to a YouGov survey last year, 63% of us started out with a New Year’s resolution that was broken by the end of January. However, in the same survey, a smug 10% said they never break their New Year's resolutions.

How come?

Laser focus

Why can some people focus with laser-like precision on their resolutions, while the rest simply fall by the wayside? Are there dark forces at work, or do the 10% have a secret everyone should know?

An initial clue might lie in asking yourself ‘just who am I making this change for?’

If you’re being pressurised by others to lose weight for instance, you are much less likely to succeed than if it is you, yourself, who wants to 'drop a dress size'. In a study of obese people, who embarked on a 6 month weight loss programme, it was found that those who wanted to make change for the sake of their own health were much more likely to lose weight and keep it off than those who were under pressure from friends and family.

Clearly, if you're going to keep a New Year's resolution, the motivation has to come from within. But are there other ways you can help yourself stay on track?

Create resolutions you can keep

If you want to stick to your resolutions this year, you need to get organised by turning them into goals. If you were planning a major road trip, you wouldn't think of setting off without having a clear idea of your destination, would you?

You wouldn't take to the road without a map or perhaps a SATNAV, in which case you'd need to program it and give it clear coordinates for where you want to go. You might break your journey down and plan a few stops en route to rest for a while. You would also be likely to have an idea about when you would reach your destination.

In other words, you would have a goal, a plan, a strategy and a time frame.

The key to ultimate success lies in how organised and committed you are. Do the ground work. Sharpen your axe before you start to fell that metaphorical tree. Time spent in preparation is definitely time well spent.

Your 'sticky' SMART goals cheat sheet

In true coaching style, your resolutions, goals or promises need to be SMART; Specific, Measurable, Achievable, Realistic and Timed. But if you want real success, there is a magic formula which really works.

First you need to summarize what it is you want..... and the reasons you want it. This harnesses motivation. Then it helps to strategize; to imagine how you might roll that goal out into your everyday life. Then, create yourself a system, a checklist and an if-then strategy so you are prepared for the glitches that might get in the way.

But there is something else that will provide you with the magic key to setting goals that really stick. Here's how. Answer these questions in full:

The 4 steps to goal success

Summarize

  • What do I want?
  • Why do I want that?
  • How will I know when I have got it?
  • What will that feel like?
  • What will others notice?

Strategize

  • What can I do to take this forward?
  • What else?
  • What else?
  • And what else?
  • When do I want to achieve this by?

Systemize

  • How will I fit this into my life?
  • What will my day/week look like when I begin to make these changes?
  • What might stop me or get in the way?
  • When will I take the first/next step?

Visualize

Finally, even when you have the willpower, the motivation, the plan and the strategy in place, they are still unlikely to be enough.

Yes, they are wonderful tools. But you need to also harness the extraordinary power of your subconscious mind to bridge the gap between where you are now and where you want to be, and to bring your goals, your beliefs, your values and your actions all into line.

The final piece of the jigsaw lies in visualising success.

Close your eyes, breathe, relax, and time travel in your imagination to a point in the future when you have achieved your goal. Notice what that feels like. What does your life look like? Look at yourself in the mirror. What do you see?

Allow yourself to look back along the time line and notice what you had to do to get you to this point. What was the first step you took? And, as you drift back to the present moment, notice a single 'golden thread' that attaches you to that future life, that will gently draw you in that direction.

You now have the secret of creating goals that really stick. Now go spread your wings…… and see how high you can fly in 2016!


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Frances A Masters

Psychotherapist, Coach, Writer. Live your best life.

Do you want to be happier and more resilient? Some people seem to just 'bounce back' no matter what life throws at them. We can't choose many of life's events but we certainly do have a choice about how we respond. My passion for mental health began 25 years ago when I suffered postnatal depression and realised the help I needed simply wasn't there. The pills didn't work. In fact they made things worse. What I really needed was to understand how anxiety, depression and emotional ill health can develop. I needed to learn good 'mind management' skills which would act like a 'psychological inoculation' against future problems. When I recovered, I made a decision to find out how and why I had become so depressed and made a personal pledge to do something to provide the kind of help for others which I had needed. I wanted to prevent people suffering unnecessarily. So I embarked on a personal and professional journey and, along the way, developed a brand new approach to health and well-being. My journey began with four years of traditional counselling training, followed by a postgraduate diploma in psychotherapy. I studied cognitive behavioural therapy (CBT) neuro-linguistic programming (NLP), hypnotherapy, coaching and cognitive neuroscience. I built up 30,000 hours professional experience which I brought together into the new happiness and resilience programme l named 'Fusion.' I also wrote a book about how to resolve post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD), founded a therapeutic coaching charity and trained volunteers to work in this new way. This training programme would later become the nationally accredited Fusion Therapeutic Coaching Diploma and Distance Learning Skills Certificate. Now... The journey continues. Now I want to reveal all my professional secrets about good mind management to as many people as possible through social media and by training Fusion Breakthrough trainers from all over the world. One of them could be you... Something new.. Something different.. Something which lasts.. What if you could experience one day which could actually change your life for good; giving you your own eureka moment; not only helping you create a vision of the life you want to live, but actually give you the real skills to get there and stay there? Fusion is a tried and tested system which combines the best of psychotherapy and coaching into a powerful new formula for lasting change. My aim is to help and empower as many people as possible to feel their best, be their best and live their best lives. Perhaps I could help you too....

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