​‘Those you love the most are the hardest to say it to.’

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Jan 06, 2016
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‘Those you love the most are the hardest to say it to.’

That is what a friend commented after my first post and how true I am finding that to be. As hard as that first conversation with my husband was, this is undoubtedly much, much, harder and I have lost track of the number of times I have written and rewritten it. A part of it is possibly because I am turning something quite personal over to the public domain… so why am I doing it this way? Well… because I want this to be the catalyst for a hundred other letters or conversations or thoughts that make their way to my mother so that she knows just how special and amazing she is, not only to me, but to friends, family and acquaintances alike.

I always thought that the mother-child relationship was a pretty simple one. They love you, you love them… what more to it is there? Looking around me though, I realise I’ve been pretty lucky and can see that unfortunately it does not always work out that way, and as a mother myself now, I know just how complicated it is in practice.

So Mom… as I know you know, I love you, but here are just a few reasons of 'why' I love and admire you and why I am so grateful to have you as my mother.

Some big things:

  • You have always been, and continue to be, there for my sisters and I no matter what we need you for, big or small. You have never made me feel as if I am, or need to be, in competition with them for your love or approval. You have supported us all equally in trying to reach our dreams and have been there to catch us those times we fall. Whatever happens, I know you will always maintain your faith and love in us.
  • For your continuous support during my first year as a mother. Early motherhood and I did not get on and I honestly don’t know how I would have coped without you there by my side. Having you there to help look after our child and knowing that he was safe in your hands took a lot of the pressure off and gave me space to breathe.
  • For your endlessly giving nature that I now see is sometimes to the detriment of yourself and your needs.

Some, still big, but slightly smaller things:

  • Your never-ending small acts of thoughtfulness, buying a book I might like as you have seen it on a shelf, calling from the store to see if there is anything we need, dropping a random email just to say hello. All the little things that let me know that we are in your thoughts.
  • Your positivity when I am being all ‘doom and gloom’.
  • Last but not least, your friendship.

Love you mom.

Vicki

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Vicki

I currently live in London but having been born in Canada, lived in Nigeria until my early teens and schooled in Scotland, if you ask me where I am from, I will struggle for a quick answer. I am an excellent self-saboteur and use humour and a practiced laissez-faire attitude as a shield to having to address difficult situations properly. The ‘Great Wake Up’ is me, finally trying to step clear of my overdeveloped protective mechanisms, and to start to interact as closely and honestly to life around me and enjoy myself whilst doing so.

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Go to the profile of Margo Etiebet
Margo Etiebet almost 3 years ago

Thank you . What a fantastic gift for this Christmas. You are super.

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Jacqueline Zivkovic almost 3 years ago

Oh my, there aren't enough nice words in this world to dedicate to Margo! She has this exceptional quality of creating magic and timeless elegance, wherever she goes. Heart bursting and sugar popping love to you both! :)

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Fiona Richmond almost 3 years ago

How lovely. And how true. Margo is a one-woman wonder.

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Chris Baréz-Brown almost 3 years ago

wow! really lovely. Thx for sharing that. xx