Are You Ready To Finally Overcome Your Fears?

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Did you ever feel blocked, paralyzed by your fears to go after your dreams? Me too, I remember I was scared to write my blog posts in English (I’m French!) but knowing how to overcome my fears was a game changer for my business and life. Overcoming your fears is what you want, right? So let’s dive in to feel free to go after the GOLD.

Who is Mrs Ego?

“The ego is synonymous with fear, and produces judgment, attack, jealousy, and all the negativity that separates you from loving truth.” Gabby Bernstein

The Purpose Of Your Ego

Your ego is building false perceptions around money, happiness, relationships, self-esteem to keep you safe and belong to a community because :

a) her role is to protect you

b) she wants to survive and she cannot survive without fear. She needs to manipulate your perceptions of various concepts to make your fears more real when they’re not at all. As per Gabby Bernstein in her book “May Cause Miracles” our fears are “False Evidence Appearing Real”.

Once your ego will consolidate her influence with these false perceptions, your logic/rational brain will look for evidence confirming your fears. For instance, you had previously a manager micro-managing you, dismissing your opinion and judgmental. This manager left, alleluia!

You have a new manager, unconsciously you can re-create what you experienced before by projecting your fears, anxiety onto your new manager who won't feel comfortable with you and feeling defensive. She will feel your energy and react defensively. It can happen because your ego will recognize this situation, WILL RE-CREATE IT, remembering that you survived to this before, so this situation is manageable for her, can occur again.

Your Ego Is Doing Her Job

Did you notice that? that the ego is seen as an enemy, the bad guy, the one to eliminate to embrace your greatness ? Wisdom bomb here: Don't demonize your ego, she’s the one that kept you safe from danger and unknown territories, you're not going to label it as an enemy now? When you think about it with compassion, she’s doing purely and simply her job.

Disempower Your Ego by Feeling the Passion Of Others

When you’re willing to witness your fears or old limiting beliefs, you’re already weakening the stronghold that the ego has on you. I attended a training about Personal Branding and was speaking to one of my colleagues about the attempts of his ego to keep him in a comfort zone. He responded to me sadly: “My voice in my head is louder than your own voice”.

But when he heard my passion in my voice when I pitched my idea, he felt motivated and encouraged to do the same and he delivered an awesome pitch later. His body language changed and automatically his presence and power. Being connected to others disempower the ego and open a space to truly embrace your uniqueness.

Your Job Is To Witness

Your job is to be aware, to witness her attempts and choose what to do. You have the choice, either to follow her thinking or listen to your intuition. From my experience, the book “May Cause Miracles” by Gabby Bernstein helped me enormously to develop my relationship with my -ing aka my lovely intuition and give less power to my ego. It's a process to gradually re-positioning your ego to a role of adviser instead of commander.

When Your Fear Is Paralyzing You, Ask For Help

Immediately ask for help to your -ing, intuition. Your inner voice will guide you exactly where you need to go to demonstrate to you that your fear is just an illusion by showing the solutions. Just be open to the idea that you will receive the solution. Shedding light on your fears by asking for help is the catalyst to open a door for change and reality. From this point, your intuition will transform your fear as a learning experience and transformation.

Be The Captain Of Your Ship

You have to regain control and be aware of the purpose of your ego and intuition. Your ego is here to protect you and to protect herself aka she’ll look for anything to do her job. To the contrary, your intuition wants to make you happy, encourage you to get out of your comfort zone, see new perceptions, guide you to make your dreams come true. Your intuition is your best ally because your intuition has no selfish interest at heart.

So, I'd love your take on this. Are you willing to develop your intuition now?

With so much love 


Gaelle Berruel

Motivational Speaker, Mindset Mentor and Wellness Expert, A Rockstar Mindset

Let’s start with three qualities which define me, shall we? I am an optimist, I’m innovative and I’m energetic. If you’re looking for something unconventional blended with optimism and energy, welcome to the Rockstar Mindset QG. I am a Motivational Speaker, a Mindset Mentor and a Wellbeing Expert. I’m also a UK Ambassador for Psychologies magazine, a publication which inspires and motivates readers to create a life they love through the online Life Labs platform. After 10 years working in the banking industry, I created my wellness consultancy, A Rockstar Mindset, to help ambitious women to become the rockstar of their life. How? By getting out of overwhelm, master your wellbeing and mindset so that you become visible and confident like hell. When I became a mum, I strove to be the best mum possible. I did not foresee that my attitude, my pursuit of perfection, would leave me feeling constantly overwhelmed and on the edge of burnout. But it has long been my belief that positivity is a driver for change and leadership, and when I learned about positive psychology and neuroplasticity (the ability of the brain to change and adapt), I was hooked. “Positive psychology is the scientific study of what makes life most worth living.” –- C. Peterson My approach is that there is more than we can see, that it’s fundamental to maintain a critical stance and to be independent of thought. I’ve always been the rebel, the outsider, the one to challenge the status quo and bring new and different perspectives or ideas. My encounter with positive psychology and the neurosciences confirmed for me that my beliefs (that we should think outside the box, focus on the positive) were accurate. I was on the right track! Convinced that there was another way to be successful at work and at home, I delved into the world of neurosciences, positive psychology and metaphysics and created my own system, Do Less, Get More Done – a framework that helps women to be successful with less overwhelm, whilst feeling more present. Positive psychology focuses on strengths instead of weaknesses, building the good in life rather than repairing the bad and reflecting on values and attitudes such as optimism, gratitude, compassion, self-esteem and resilience. The study of these topics came about from a desire to help people flourish and live their best lives. “It is not primarily our physical selves that limit us but rather our mindset about our physical limits.” ― E. Langer It is my conviction that every woman deserves to have a healthy mindset so that she can create a life on her terms. Why? Because we deserve to say stop to the pressure emanating from culture, social media, society. We deserve to be accepted and empowered. Our mind is our ally and must be strengthened as such. Shifting our mindset is vital as well as unlearning, removing the old beliefs holding us back, raising our consciousness and developing our intuition. But there's more. Mindset is important but your wellbeing is primordial. Working on your mindset and wellbeing is the formula to create a life you love. Combining your head and heart in everything you do is what makes all the difference. The difference that you crave to create in your life. The world needs us (as women) to positively make a difference to make the life of women, children, and future generations better. It’s time to build a healthy, conscious society based on mutual respect. And I genuinely believe that women have the skills to merge masculine and feminine energy to create something incredible. As for the rest: I love to travel, read books and dance with abandon. I’m married to a marvellous Frenchman and we have a daughter. I am fluent in English and French and I’m an advocate of beauty and women’s empowerment. My philosophy is Forward Thinking Communication and I’m here to help you become the Rockstar of Your Life.


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about 3 years ago

Adviser instead of commander....I shall hold onto that thought, write it down and gently guide myself into a healthier, more resilient self. 

Lots of love, and gratitude x