Did you ever feel blocked, paralyzed by your fears to go after your dreams? Me too, I remember I was scared to write my blog posts in English (I’m French!) but knowing how to overcome my fears was a game changer for my business and life. Overcoming your fears is what you want, right? So let’s dive in to feel free to go after the GOLD.
Who is Mrs Ego?
“The ego is synonymous with fear, and produces judgment, attack, jealousy, and all the negativity that separates you from loving truth.” Gabby Bernstein
The Purpose Of Your Ego
Your ego is building false perceptions around money, happiness, relationships, self-esteem to keep you safe and belong to a community because :
a) her role is to protect you
b) she wants to survive and she cannot survive without fear. She needs to manipulate your perceptions of various concepts to make your fears more real when they’re not at all. As per Gabby Bernstein in her book “May Cause Miracles” our fears are “False Evidence Appearing Real”.
Once your ego will consolidate her influence with these false perceptions, your logic/rational brain will look for evidence confirming your fears. For instance, you had previously a manager micro-managing you, dismissing your opinion and judgmental. This manager left, alleluia!
You have a new manager, unconsciously you can re-create what you experienced before by projecting your fears, anxiety onto your new manager who won't feel comfortable with you and feeling defensive. She will feel your energy and react defensively. It can happen because your ego will recognize this situation, WILL RE-CREATE IT, remembering that you survived to this before, so this situation is manageable for her, can occur again.
Your Ego Is Doing Her Job
Did you notice that? that the ego is seen as an enemy, the bad guy, the one to eliminate to embrace your greatness ? Wisdom bomb here: Don't demonize your ego, she’s the one that kept you safe from danger and unknown territories, you're not going to label it as an enemy now? When you think about it with compassion, she’s doing purely and simply her job.
Disempower Your Ego by Feeling the Passion Of Others
When you’re willing to witness your fears or old limiting beliefs, you’re already weakening the stronghold that the ego has on you. I attended a training about Personal Branding and was speaking to one of my colleagues about the attempts of his ego to keep him in a comfort zone. He responded to me sadly: “My voice in my head is louder than your own voice”.
But when he heard my passion in my voice when I pitched my idea, he felt motivated and encouraged to do the same and he delivered an awesome pitch later. His body language changed and automatically his presence and power. Being connected to others disempower the ego and open a space to truly embrace your uniqueness.
Your Job Is To Witness
Your job is to be aware, to witness her attempts and choose what to do. You have the choice, either to follow her thinking or listen to your intuition. From my experience, the book “May Cause Miracles” by Gabby Bernstein helped me enormously to develop my relationship with my -ing aka my lovely intuition and give less power to my ego. It's a process to gradually re-positioning your ego to a role of adviser instead of commander.
When Your Fear Is Paralyzing You, Ask For Help
Immediately ask for help to your -ing, intuition. Your inner voice will guide you exactly where you need to go to demonstrate to you that your fear is just an illusion by showing the solutions. Just be open to the idea that you will receive the solution. Shedding light on your fears by asking for help is the catalyst to open a door for change and reality. From this point, your intuition will transform your fear as a learning experience and transformation.
Be The Captain Of Your Ship
You have to regain control and be aware of the purpose of your ego and intuition. Your ego is here to protect you and to protect herself aka she’ll look for anything to do her job. To the contrary, your intuition wants to make you happy, encourage you to get out of your comfort zone, see new perceptions, guide you to make your dreams come true. Your intuition is your best ally because your intuition has no selfish interest at heart.
So, I'd love your take on this. Are you willing to develop your intuition now?
With so much love