When you read a title, which says 'Change', it may trigger an expectation that the vision might change. Sometimes, it is simply the changes in processes that result in a more positive and light perspective of what already is. I was going to try an ‘Induction to Counselling Course.’ How did I get on?

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In the autumnal months I decided to say yes, instead of no.

I was getting fitter, spending less time writing and opening-up to opportunities. I paid little attention to limitations, and although I am on a non-linear experiential learning curve. I am pleased to report – I am okay. Surviving!

I decided to start socialising and networking more and was inspired after a little digital learning to access some interactive group courses with the Adult Education Centre.

I applied for an introductory to counselling course. I’d already mentioned in a previous blog that I was often supportive without a title, maybe it was time to obtain a title. 

In the autumnal months I decided to say yes, instead of no.

The counselling course was a taster session. A chance for me to decide whether the Counsellor’s hat was a fit for me. I am certainly glad it was a free course, because during week 2 of a 3 hour, once a week, for four weeks, I began to recognise my intuition was rambling in the dark, pushed back into the depths of my mind – No. No. No.

I was quite open about it, I decided to be clear with the facilitator, and during the opening circle and the closing circle I would announce “I am Julie, and I feel unsure, uncertain, disheartened, maybe tested.”

I decided to pay attention to my responses and noticed that I hadn’t just said these words about the counselling course. Over recent months and years I was saying this a lot, about a lot. For many reasons within the mindset, body and the soul, my reasoning for this intuition often left me sounding disappointed and frustrated. Why?

I chose to ask myself why?

I’ve been self-awareness practising, journalling, for nearly five years now, but only recently since February 2017 triggered by an accessing of abundant resources with the Psychologies Magazine did I start to properly think about what I had written down and see it as a process of reflection? Reflection can only be visited after the sequence of events take place. Thanks to the team for providing some excellent tips and instructions. The worksheets have been really helpful as a subscriber.

These tools launched on the website in 2018 have worked for me, too. They won’t always work for everyone. A tool is often only as capable as the user of the tool. I sound like a joiner. It was a joiner that gave me that sentence, which has stayed with me for over a decade.

If a tool isn’t working as effectively as I want it to, I might need training. I might need to ask for help, or guidance. After receiving the training and guidance, the tool becomes easier to use over time, with more and more practise. This ideology has worked for me in my own circumstances. I don’t speak for everyone; which is something I recently learned on the Induction to Counselling Course, so it was very helpful as a process of reinforcement.

In the past I have always been the selfless ear, the guide the listener and the supporter, but when it comes to asking for help, I often turned to myself. This isn’t always the best way, however I’ve a high success rate of achievement in my life, so I won’t quibble. When I suggest turning to myself, I refer to reading Literature, researching the internet, and reading magazines and journals to gain more awareness, knowledge and insight to help myself. I think a lot of people do this nowadays. Information is easily accessible if we choose to look for it.

When looking for the answer to something, it is about timing, place and orientations. I’ve always enjoyed adventures and navigation, maybe that’s why I am a huge supporter of life-long-learning. Sometimes I make the right choices for the moment, other times, I don’t.

The one thing that has always been clear to me in recent years, is to be aware and accountable of my own actions.

I had never started out in writing poetry and stories that might reflect a message of healing and catharsis, maybe it was something I needed to do, and it just happened on a subconscious level. I’ve always loved to note and write, without reason. 

Now I have some great reasons for writing. .

I understand today that I don’t need to be a Counsellor to write. I don’t need to be a Therapist or a Professor or a Lecturer or a Teacher. The pressure is off.  The Introductory Course to Counselling it delivered this message to me.  I simply need to trust that I am always going to have fun in the learning process, and I have my limits, and my boundaries that are clear to me, but they don’t always need to be shared in the creative words I write.

 I simply need to write what I like to write about, which is mainly poetry and fantasy-fiction and maintain my sense of self as the narrator. I am external from the book, I am observant. No more internalisation is required.

  • If I write about horror, that doesn’t make me a murderer.
  • If I write about fairies, that doesn’t make me a dreamer.
  • If I write about comedy, that doesn’t mean I am laughing all of the time.

I am simply here to write. 

When you read a title which says 'Change', it may trigger an expectation that the vision might change. Sometimes, it is simply the changes in processes that result in a more positive and light perspective of what already is. 

I’ve been prompted to take an Interpreting Dreams course. Why not!


Julie Spencer

Ambassador and Learning Support Assistant, Psychologies Magazine

Proud Ambassador for Psychologies Magazine. The magazine encapsulates many of my core values: being kind, have compassion, look after your health and wellbeing, be professional and be supportive of others. A little self belief can go a long way. I have studied as a mature student. I went into a writing frenzy and spent 3 years writing in solitude. I was a stay at home mum, too. What I learned: being alone for long periods of time is bad for your health and wellbeing. Thanks to a little nudge from Psychologies Magazine I am reconnecting and rebuilding my C.V. I'm a creative. I have lots of ideas and I need to constantly realign my focus onto one project at a time. Until recently I had a real fear for public speaking, but after reading a book that suggested I acknowledge my fears and challenge them anyway; with the support of the Psychologies community and more I'm working through my fears one blog at a time.