Do you REALLY need to know?

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Making decisions can be difficult. Particularly if the decision is multi-faceted and complex. Sometimes weighing up the pros and cons of different options can be challenging, and there is a risk of rumination and anxiety setting in.  This can particularly be the case with decisions about relationships.

The thing is, there is seldom a right answer. Oftentimes every option has upsides and downsides.  Whatever we do, including choosing to do nothing, has consequences.  The best we can usually do is come to an understanding of the option that fits best for us, knowing what we know now, and relying on our own instincts and sense of congruence.

In the digital age, we have so much information. We are used to finding out whatever we want to know at the click of a button.  For factual things, this can be a wonderful blessing.

The cost however is that we may now be much less comfortable with not knowing. With uncertainty. With the idea there is no neat answer.

Human relationships are messy, challenging things. And yet, just as beautiful lotus blossoms grow out of mud, wellbeing, joy and connection can grow out of our floundering uncertainty.

Maybe sometimes a big decision is not needed. Maybe taking the step that is just in front of you, right here, right now, is all that is required. Perhaps decisions will unfold if you stay present and sense your way forward.  Can you be comfortable to say 'I don't know yet' and see what emerges?

Fe Robinson, Psychotherapist

Hi. I'm Fe, and I'm here to help you thrive, whatever life brings. I believe every client is unique, I work with you to help you explore, discover and grow in whatever ways are right for you. I work with a wide range of clients, both long and short term. I offer Psychotherapy, EMDR therapy and Couples Counselling to UK clients online and in Gainford, Co.Durham in North-East England. I am UKCP Accredited and an EMDR Europe Practitioner, and offer Clinical Supervision to counsellors and psychotherapists online and in person. Following a career in Organisation Development I became a therapist because it's my heart work. Before having my family and starting my private practice I worked in the NHS and mental health charities.