For therapy to work, change must happen

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Clients often come to therapy wanting to bring about change. You may want relief from troubling symptoms, or to work out how to move forwards in life situations that are problematic, or just to feel differently about things that have happened to you. Always, clients come hoping for something to be different than it is currently.

Given the only part of the situation that is in the room to be worked with is the client themselves, change begins within. In NLP, we say 'the person who is the most flexible has the most influence.' For example, to improve a relationship dynamic we can only change our own actions and hope to prompt a different response from our loved one. If we can flex our own responses, we can prompt change.   

Therapy, in its quest for personal growth, involves a degree of challenge. Nothing new is learned by continuing to do what we already do, learning comes from moving to the edge of our comfort zone and stepping out into our unknown.

Therapy works in part by new information emerging for the client, most beneficially this happens spontaneously through growing client awareness and exploration of what is true for them. Added to this, the therapeutic relationship itself brings new ways of relating and interacting, these provide new stimulus to the client's way of being, sometimes consciously and sometimes beyond awareness.

Therapy without a growing edge, without a degree of challenge, might feel comfortable for a while, but it may not do what you need or want. Ethics dictate that we put clients at the heart of our work, and consider what is bringing them and how we help them with their concerns. This calls us to dig deep, and to be brave. The more authentic and respectful a therapist can be, the more both client and therapist are likely to learn.

Fe Robinson, Psychotherapist

Hi. I'm Fe, and I'm here to help you thrive, whatever life brings. I believe every client is unique, I work with you to help you explore, discover and grow in whatever ways are right for you. I work with a wide range of clients, both long and short term. I offer Psychotherapy, EMDR therapy and Couples Counselling to UK clients online and in Gainford, Co.Durham in North-East England. I am UKCP Accredited and an EMDR Europe Practitioner, and offer Clinical Supervision to counsellors and psychotherapists online and in person. Following a career in Organisation Development I became a therapist because it's my heart work. Before having my family and starting my private practice I worked in the NHS and mental health charities.