Preparing for couples counselling

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Sitting down with a counsellor can be a daunting prospect.  For many people, doing so with someone we love is even more tricky. The stakes can feel pretty high when you are taking your intimate relationship to therapy. 

  It is always a good idea to give careful consideration to what you want to have happen before you go to see a counsellor. It's important to be clear what you are, and are not, looking for.  It's also important to know what you are prepared to put into the process and to be clear about your level of commitment. The less you are willing to invest, the less you can expect in return. 

You may also want to give your counsellor an idea of what you are expecting from them. Talking about what has and has not worked well for you in counselling previously can be useful, as well as finding out how your counsellor usually works and what this means you can expect to happen in the room. Not everyone is suited to particular working styles, and you need to find someone that fits for you both.

Here are some questions you may want to consider both separately and together before going to a couples counselling session:

1.  What brings you to couples counselling?

2.  Why now?

3.  What are your goals for counselling - both together and as individuals? 

4.  What will be different about your relationship once your goals have been met?

5.  How important is this to you both? What benefits will it bring?

6.  How will you know when your goals have been met?

7.  What's your understanding of the issues?

8.  How do you think change might occur?

9.  What are you prepared to commit to do differently?

10.  What are you prepared to let go of?

Fe Robinson, Psychotherapist

Hi. I'm Fe, and I'm here to help you thrive, whatever life brings. I believe every client is unique, I work with you to help you explore, discover and grow in whatever ways are right for you. I work with a wide range of clients, both long and short term. I offer Psychotherapy, EMDR therapy and Couples Counselling to UK clients online and in Gainford, Co.Durham in North-East England. I am UKCP Accredited and an EMDR Europe Practitioner, and offer Clinical Supervision to counsellors and psychotherapists online and in person. Following a career in Organisation Development I became a therapist because it's my heart work. Before having my family and starting my private practice I worked in the NHS and mental health charities.