Self Sabotage

Many engage in the process of self-sabotaging without realising it

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Many people engage in the process of self-sabotaging without realising it. Sadly, due to their patterns of thought they mentally block themselves from taking necessary actions due to these common fears, the fear of failing; the fear of the unknown, the fear of pain and rejection. These fears can be crippling and prevent individuals from getting their needs met in the form of the goals they would like to set.

Our self-sabotage might be a recurring habit, a default behaviour or even an unconscious way we keep ourselves feeling safe when we are out of our comfort zone. Unfortunately, there are implicit, explicit and challenging parental demands we often accept and internalise as the necessary way to be, which in many situations can often hold us back from happiness, success or peace of mind.

As a psychotherapist I encourage my clients to be aware of their behaviours and how they can be a major inhibitor to their goals, preventing them from excelling in areas which may have been for them naturally proficient. In working with a therapist, you can begin to learn more about your inner voice, that continually criticises and berates you. This voice unhelpfully contributes to feelings of worthlessness, incompetence and taps into an insecurity in a negative cycle of self-sabotage.

Our awareness is our most valuable tool in overcoming self-sabotaging behaviours. By allowing ourselves to be moved by our suffering at the hands of our self-critic we can strengthen our desire to heal.  New insights can allow individuals to see that their thoughts and beliefs about the past and the future are just thoughts. 

Samantha Carbon
Psychotherapist - MSc Psych, CTA (P), UKCP, MBACP
Clinical Supervisor
Mobile: 07938435233

Samantha Carbon UKCP Psychotherapist

Samantha Carbon is a psychotherapist running a private practice. Following a background in the financial industry, Samantha set out to follow her true passion and pursue her training as a psychotherapist. Today, Samantha assists people in the process of finding the peace of mind they deserve. In particular she works with individuals with a history of addictive behaviours such as alcohol, drugs, sex & gambling. She works with individuals who experience depression, anxiety, loss, work related stresses and gender dysphoria, as well as couples. She is dedicated to supporting people to identify their self-worth and improve the quality of their lives. She works with corporates in understanding workplace diversity, understanding intolerances and biases.