14 Lies We Self-Administer

We make up stories, seemingly innocuous little fibs, to keep ourselves stuck and out of action. Sometimes we're not even aware that we're doing it. I'm wrestling with number 2. Which lie(s) resonate with YOU?

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  1. If I am perfect, I will avoid criticism and be immune to pain.
  2. My value is based on my output.
  3. I need others to validate my talent, success and good-enoughness.
  4. My past determines my future.
  5. I believe my thoughts, especially the self-critical ones.
  6. Avoiding disapproval will keep me safe and liked.
  7. If I am vulnerable, people will think less of me.
  8. I negatively rehearse what could go wrong, and focus on this. It’s called realism, baby.
  9. When others are short with me, or are in a bad mood, I suspect it has something to do with me.
  10. I must be fully in control at all times – my environment, my diary, my hair…
  11. My personality is fixed. This is how I am.
  12. Life happens to me. I do not have power. Other people have power over me.
  13. Worrying is a way of controlling a situation and it’s outcome.
  14. Living in perpetual resentment means I can keep punishing the perpetrator. This gives me power, control and superiority.

Our inner gremlin is busy at work with its organ grinder, churning out lies that keep us out of action. What lies are you self-administering? Drop by the comment box and let us know.

Want more? Swing over to my blog to get the full list: 23 Lies We Self-Administer.

Dr. Mandy Lehto

Coach, Presence Expert, Courage-Builder, Possibilitarian, www.mandylehto.com

Hey gorgeous! Have we met? I'm Dr. Mandy Lehto, speaker, coach and writer who helps amazing people get out of their own way already. Nearly ten years ago, I waved adios to my senior investment banking job in London to help as many people as possible start living their un-lived lives. Nowadays, I spend a disturbing amount of time thinking about overcoming fear and the obstacles we place in our own way (we are bizarre creatures, aren't we?). If being braver, a bit more bonkers, and living on purpose is your thing too (squeal!), lets hang out here, and come for green tea over at mine on www.mandylehto.com


Go to the profile of Suzy Walker
about 6 years ago
These are wince-makingly true. A few resonate for me. x