Learn how to STOP self harm

I’ve talked before about the escalation of mental health problems in our children and young people. We ignore these issues at our peril.

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Oct 19, 2015
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That is why I am now busy delivering training to target the recent explosion of self harm in our schools.

The ‘STOP Self Harm’ programme delivers psycho education and emotional management strategies directly to teachers and young people. Knowledge truly is power. Fewer children would experiment with self harming if they knew how addictive it can become and, as Einstein observed, ‘an ounce of prevention is worth a pound of cure.’

When you look at what’s happening, a worrying pattern begins to emerge.

Children turned away by mental health services

Just last week, a report from the NSPCC highlighted the fact that more than a fifth of children referred to mental health services in England have been refused treatment as they ‘do not meet the right criteria’. The charity talked about a ‘time bomb’ of serious mental health conditions, saying ‘there is a vacuum that needs to be filled and it needs to be both a national and local priority.’

Figures from 35 mental health trusts across England show a total of 186,453 cases were referred by GPs and other professionals for help, but 39,652 children did not receive it. The NSPCC said its Child Line service received nearly 100 calls a week last year from children whose mental health and wellbeing were suffering as a consequence.

A spokesman for NHS England said: ‘We do need, as a country, to better understand the underlying causes of why it is that children and adolescents' mental health problems seem to be on the rise….’

A report in The Times just two weeks ago talked about increasing mental health problems in private schools too. Head teachers are concerned.

They know they need help, but are confused by the 600 models of talking therapy currently being practised by counsellors and psychotherapists. Let’s face it, many GPs and mental health practitioners simply don’t know what to do when faced with self harming youngsters, and do not have the skills to offer effective help.

Fusion therapeutic coaches do.

An epidemic

Schools are really struggling to cope with the rising numbers of pupils who self-harm, according to two major teaching unions. It’s truly becoming an epidemic.

The figures for students who cut, burn or hurt themselves in another way, have been rising sharply in recent years. NHS figures show there were 28,730 admissions in England for self-harm among 10 to 19 year olds in the year to March 2014 compared with 22,978 the year before. However this is likely to be just the tip of the iceberg as many more youngsters who harm themselves do not end up in hospital.

What are the signs?

Self harm presents in a variety of ways:

Cutting
Burning
Hair pulling
Hitting
Biting
Crashing a car
Scalding
Banging or scratching one’s own body
Breaking bones
Picking skin
Self strangulation
Ingesting toxic substances or objects
Throwing self down stairs
And many more.....

If you suspect a child may be at risk of self harming, be on the look-out for uncharacteristically withdrawn, irritable or secretive behaviour. Be on the alert too, if a child dresses in long sleeves and long trousers all the time, even in warm weather, and can't be persuaded to wear anything more revealing.

The NHS website defines self harm as ‘when somebody intentionally damages or injures their body. It is a way of coping with or expressing overwhelming emotional distress.’

A way to live or a way to die?

Some people think of self-harm on a spectrum, with suicide at one end and normal coping mechanisms at the other. In between there might be varying degrees of serious and minor self harm. However, someone who attempts suicide is often motivated by the desire to end the pain of living; whereas someone who self harms is often trying to make them self feel better; to find a way of continuing to live.

And many of us simply do not know how to respond to the issue when confronted with it.

Consider this scenario

Jane says ‘I’ve got something to show you’ and rolls up her sleeve.

You see many scars. There is a bandage, a recent wound. How do you react? What are your immediate thoughts and feelings? There are a range of unhelpful reactions:

  • All this self harm nonsense makes me so angry
  • Attention seeking
  • Manipulation
  • A drain on already stretched resources
  • This is a waste of my time
  • I can't deal with this

NICE guidelines describe self harm as 'a symptom of an underlying problem'.

It is essential to try and discover what that problem is. It is also essential not to try and stop the behaviour before replacing it with another, more helpful, coping mechanism.

Why?

There are many reasons why youngsters self harm and the reasons they give are often different from what the professionals say. In a survey conducted by the Samaritans, the most common reason given was 'to find relief from a terrible situation’. The least common reason was 'to get my own back.'

Looking at the problem through the SAFE SPACE lens can be a very helpful starting point, to identify which aspects of a child’s life are causing them distress. Listening empathically and without judgement is crucial, but is not enough on its own.

Young people will, at some point, need a strategy like the mindfulness based STOP System to help them reduce self harming and replace the behaviour with ‘emotional intelligence’ to help manage uncomfortable feelings.

Frances A Masters MBACP accred GHGI FRTC

www.integratedcoachingacademy.com


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Frances A Masters

Psychotherapist, Coach, Writer. Live your best life.

Do you want to be happier and more resilient? Some people seem to just 'bounce back' no matter what life throws at them. We can't choose many of life's events but we certainly do have a choice about how we respond. My passion for mental health began 25 years ago when I suffered postnatal depression and realised the help I needed simply wasn't there. The pills didn't work. In fact they made things worse. What I really needed was to understand how anxiety, depression and emotional ill health can develop. I needed to learn good 'mind management' skills which would act like a 'psychological inoculation' against future problems. When I recovered, I made a decision to find out how and why I had become so depressed and made a personal pledge to do something to provide the kind of help for others which I had needed. I wanted to prevent people suffering unnecessarily. So I embarked on a personal and professional journey and, along the way, developed a brand new approach to health and well-being. My journey began with four years of traditional counselling training, followed by a postgraduate diploma in psychotherapy. I studied cognitive behavioural therapy (CBT) neuro-linguistic programming (NLP), hypnotherapy, coaching and cognitive neuroscience. I built up 30,000 hours professional experience which I brought together into the new happiness and resilience programme l named 'Fusion.' I also wrote a book about how to resolve post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD), founded a therapeutic coaching charity and trained volunteers to work in this new way. This training programme would later become the nationally accredited Fusion Therapeutic Coaching Diploma and Distance Learning Skills Certificate. Now... The journey continues. Now I want to reveal all my professional secrets about good mind management to as many people as possible through social media and by training Fusion Breakthrough trainers from all over the world. One of them could be you... Something new.. Something different.. Something which lasts.. What if you could experience one day which could actually change your life for good; giving you your own eureka moment; not only helping you create a vision of the life you want to live, but actually give you the real skills to get there and stay there? Fusion is a tried and tested system which combines the best of psychotherapy and coaching into a powerful new formula for lasting change. My aim is to help and empower as many people as possible to feel their best, be their best and live their best lives. Perhaps I could help you too....

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