Getting Focused

Starting something from scratch can be overwhelming, but it doesn't have to be.

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"What are your goals?" - A question that either fills you with excitement or sends you into a mild panic attack...

As children we whiz through school, maybe head to uni, and eventually enter the work place, it's all very linear, neat and somewhat expected of us. Once you hit adulthood however choices, thoughts and options get a whole lot juicer. Do you settle down and have kids? Are you happy in your career? Do you want to live in a different town/ country? We're suddenly expected to have a clear direction and destination in mind, but what happens if we don't?

Having choices can feel empowering and even exciting but too much choice can actually leave us feeling overwhelmed and stuck out of fear of making the wrong decision. When we're looking to make a change in our lives or set a goal for ourselves it can be hard to know where to start, we tend to focus on the end result, maybe even talk ourselves out of it, but it can actually help to break the process down into the following 3 steps:

How do I want to feel?

Who do I want to be?

What do I want to have?

These simple questions can help to create a clearer picture of what you actually want and can even identify the steps you need to take in order to achieve them, making the unachievable suddenly seems more manageable, more realistic. Take for example 'finding the perfect job', on paper that seems like a massive task but identifying that you want to feel valued and make a difference, that you want to be a leader of a team, and that you need to have time off at weekends helps limit the possibilities and move you in the direction that's right for you. Often we can think we're doing what's right for us but with closer inspection and a bit of self analysis we actually find we've made our choices based on other people's expectations and not what we truly want.

Why not try it for yourself, if there were no limits, no excuses: who would you be, have and do?


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