Feeling Emotionally Equipped for Change.

Life is full of transitions and change. If you keep your eyes open and your mind aware, you'll see how your past struggles and challenges can help you move through them with strength and compassion instead of stress and worry.

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Transitions are weird aren’t they? 

They can feel anything from stressful and emotional, to exciting and inspiring, or scary and anxious.

I feel like I’ve been experiencing some transitions this year already, partly in my own personal growth and business and partly my life in general.

I’ve mentioned before in previous blog posts that I started my journey as a Coach about two years ago. Those two years have been some of the weirdest, most exciting and most stressful of my life so far. 

I think anyone who wants to help other people with their mindset, needs to delve into their own first and continue to keep a keen awareness of it going forwards. It’s the best way to get good at something, to experience and practice it for yourself so that you can relate to others when they’re experiencing it too. 

As a result I’ve been hanging out a lot in my own mind, getting to know my limiting beliefs and working through them. Observing how and why I do things, what I’m thinking and feeling when faced with challenges and consciously choosing perspectives that make sense to the direction I want to go in. Finding lessons in the struggles, frustrations and failures and drawing on courage I didn’t even know I had to put myself out there and keep going. 

There have been a lot of lessons to learn and I am super grateful for them, I’ve come a long way with it all to the point where a couple of months ago I made a bit of a shift.

It was kinda weird…more of a feeling really, like I’d walked through some sort of metaphorical door or hit a vista point on an uphill hike or something. 

I felt a big weight lift and a lot of pressure that I’d been feeling up until then just kind of went away. 

I don’t really know what did it, probably a mixture of things but it was definitely a culmination of a big learning period in my life. 

Don’t get me wrong, there will be many more lessons coming my way. I’ll always be learning and growing in some way, but this transition felt like it marked the end of me being unsure about my own judgement. 

I feel like I trust myself a lot more now than I did before, and while I encourage everyone to listen to and trust themselves, I do believe that there are times in life where the only way you can really truly do that is by going through all the other challenges first. 

You can’t just shortcut your way there, you need to experience what you need to experience in order to gain the realisations and have the breakthroughs that you want or need to have. 

It’s kind of like if you wanted to go for a drive, you’d need to get your keys, leave your house and get in the car before you could actually set off. 

However, getting there can be frustrating. For example, you could lose your keys for half an hour, you could put your shoes on the wrong feet, spill water on yourself and have to change just as you were about to leave, forget the code for the security alarm you need to set when you leave the house, get stuck chatting to your super boring neighbour somewhere between your house and your car, or your seatbelt does that really annoying thing where it keeps locking and you can’t do it up because it’s not long enough but every time you try and pull it longer it keeps bloody locking up!! 

Do you see what I mean? Shit can go wrong a lot of the time, but sometimes you just need to go through it to get where you wanna go.

The example above definitely speaks to my own experiences over the past couple of years, but as a result I feel pretty serene and well equipped to deal with big transitions now.

This has become evident to me in that last week my Mum moved out of our family home and is now living about 230 miles away.

The home she moved out of was the house I grew up in, she lived there for thirty two years and it held so many amazing memories.

Her leaving that house is a massive transition for all of us and a lot of people have been asking me how I’m handling it. This is where I’ve really noticed that all the challenges and transitions over the last two years have made me so much stronger, because I’m actually doing ok and I'm finding myself looking forward with excitement for the future instead getting stuck in worry or sadness about the change.  

So whatever you might be dealing with right now, keep being aware of what thoughts are swirling around inside your head. Ask yourself what you need to or want to focus on and choose a perspective that brings you some, or all of the following: joy, empowerment, hope, patience, faith, inspiration, happiness, kindness and compassion. 

Life is a journey that’s full of transitions and challenges. Handling them with an empowered mindset is fundamental to living a life of happiness, fulfilment and success. Just be patient and kind kind to yourself along the way.  

Much love, 

Amy xx

Amy Shefik

Happiness Coach, The Fierce Flamingo

I help people navigate their way through the challenges and expectations of being a grown up in modern society, whilst building happiness, self-worth and having more fun.