Leading with Your Heart

When having to make a difficult decision

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We have to make choices everyday, but every now and then we need to make a difficult decision. It may be due to a career change or something on a more personal level, but whatever it is, your decision in that moment could change the trajectory of your life.

Recently, I have had to make a very difficult decision. It was one of those, damned if you do, damned if you don’t, moments. I found I was arguing with myself like a deranged woman! And this went on for a few months. So much so, that the stress I put on myself was enormous and I ended up with knots in my shoulders and finally pulling my back!

Then one day, as I continued contemplating my choice, I became aware that I felt I had two brains – two minds, which were arguing with each other. There was the one in my head and then it felt like I had one in my heart. The one in my head was critical and judging, “Don’t do this, do that, please others, not yourself.”

But the one in my heart was loving and giving with no judgement.

As I sat quietly, I then decided to imagine the 90 year old version of myself (if I live that long!) and I decided to ask her what I should do. In an instance the answer came. She said, “Live your life and be happy.”

I then knew the decision to take.

My head had been arguing with my heart and they both had very different answers for me. This was not dissimilar to deciding an outcome out of love or out of fear. As soon as you choose from a place of love, you are heading in the right decision.

I heard a great phrase recently, which added to this. “When we feel we should be doing this or should be doing that, we end up ‘shoulding’ all over ourselves!”

I did laugh at this analogy but it also speaks a lot of truth.

Many of us live the life others expect of us instead of living the life we dream of and truly deserve.

There comes times in our lives when, deep in our heart, we know the right decision, but we just need to be brave and show courage. In leading with our heart, we can overcome our fears to live our best life possible.

So if you are having to make a tough decision, try imagining being your 90 years old you and looking back at your life. Did you live the life others expected of you or did you lead with your heart and live your best life?

“There is no passion to be found in playing small – in settling for a life that is less than one you are capable of living.” – Nelson Mandela

Sara Challice

Motivational speaker, teacher and author, Who Cares 4 Carers?

Sara is a speaker and author of the book, “Who Cares? How to care for yourself whilst caring for a loved one”. Caring for a loved one is both amazing and altruistic. It not only improves the quality of life for the cared for, it can extend their life for many years. Sara cared for her husband for 13 years, after he became severely disabled from a brain tumour. She eventually became mentally and physically unwell from the stresses of caring for him, but then discovered a better way to care for herself whilst continuing to care. Sara shares her insight, wisdom and stories to inspire carers globally to safeguard their own health and enjoy life. Too many of us live from a place of survival, which is not only detrimental to our health and wellbeing, but stops us from living from a place of joy. Sara is also a fundraiser, helping campaign for greater awareness and research with The Brain Tumour Charity and became a trustee for the neurological charity, INS. Her book, “Who Cares?” will be published in March 2020, by Hammersmith Books.


Go to the profile of Lauren Eames
almost 3 years ago

Love this 💛

Last year i had a really tough decision to make in my love life and this year i’ve recently made another big decision in my work life. 

The first decision worked out for the best 😍😄 and im sure this work one will do too!

As cliché as it sounds, heart versus head decisions really do exist and when you finally listen to your heart, you’ll know you’ve made the right choice