Is All Femininity Necessarily Good?
Not all kinds of femininity show up as healthy contributions to this world. So how do we ensure that we don’t get blind-sided in our celebration of all feminine?
This year (2018) is supposed to be a pivotal year in shifting the world towards a feminine paradigm, where feminine values come into power. The rise of the feminine is seen both in the world of spirituality with talks about the coming of feminine consciousness and in the world of business where this year’s ‘more feminine Davos’ was deemed the new face of leadership.
Whether you lean to the side of spirituality or business or both, doesn’t matter, but you would have had to make an effort not to notice the emphasis on the power of feminine values that has been on the rise in recent years both in the world at large and in leadership in particular.
As great as that is, I continuously see two aspects missing from the debate, which I feel is imperative to ensure that the rise of feminine in business doesn't lead us on to a new path just as damaging to the world as the dominant masculine paradigm, we live in.
Not all feminine is healthy
I feel two important elements are missing from the conversation and focus on 'the feminine'
1. There is a lack of conversation about what kind of femininity, we are celebrating and encouraging. There is a lot of toxic femininity, which in my view bring no valuable contribution to the world. Then I’d almost rather stay in this unhealthy masculine paradigm, we have created.
So the first question is what kind of femininity are we calling forward at this time of age and in business?
2. And secondly, how do we call femininity forward in a way that is inclusive of both men and women?
Feminine values that are not balanced with healthy masculine values will lead to another downward spiral for business and leadershop. Often, I think the debate polarises the genders with its femininity vs. masculinity.
It completely causes us to miss the most important point, which is that the rise of femininity should be about all people integrating healthy feminine and masculine values to enable more powerful leaders (whether that be of our own lives or the lives of others). This is what will create a real change in the world towards a more healthy, sustainable, thriving and prosperous way of living and growing business.
The more you can integrate healthy masculine and feminine values in yourself, the higher your complexity thinking, and the more effective you are as a leader. Man or woman.
FROM AWARENESS TO CREATION OF A NEW REALITY
I recognize the tremendous value of the needed awareness that has been brought to issues such as equal rights of women, the need for women in leadership, family patterns and sexuality to mention just a few areas.
An important aspect of developing into greater potential whether it is on a personal or societal level is to create awareness of the shadows that is holding us back. And it has been an important journey to heal the unhealthy masculinity and the wounded femininity, which I experience is damaging to both men, women and the planet.
But after a process of awareness it is time to think about how we want to use past experiences and learnings moving forward. What kind of world do we want to create? What kind of leadership do we need to bring forward?
For me there is no doubt that the answer is to move the conversation into a integrated perspective of how all regardless of gender can master a healthy expression of feminine and masculine values.
Many women in leadership positions, power and influence are just as active in keeping alive the unhealthy masculine values that are causing the world to spiral down – sometimes even more so than men. Men that balance and master both feminine and masculine values bring more positive change about than any woman who has not integrated both the power of discipline as well as cooperation.
To me it is all about each of us reaching a higher level of mastery of the feminine and the masculine, which we all have access to, and which we can all tap into to create a world where we and other people thrive at a higher level.
How comfortable are you with your feminine and masculine sides? How well can you move in and out of them, and bring each quality them forward at the right time and the right place?