A Little Self Care Goes A Long Way

Flying the self care flag: Why self care is the opposite of selfish.

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Maybe it's the less-than-summer weather we've been having, maybe it's desperately hanging on for payday, or maybe it's even the aftermath of consuming my own body weight in Easter chocolate, but for some reason, this week I've felt a bit CRAPPY.

Work is going well, I've not long come back from a beautiful trip abroad and I've even managed to squeeze in some lovely time with friends, usually the first thing to go when you're super busy! If everything is going so well at the moment, why the hell do I feel so rubbish?

There are a lot of factors that can contribute to fluctuations in mood: lack of sleep, poor diet, binging on booze, stress, money worries, or maybe even all of the above! 

I'd like to think I've become a bit of a ninja when it comes to low moods. Feeling emotional/tired; cancel plans and hit the duvet. Money stress; whip up a spreadsheet with a monthly budget and commit to pack lunches for 30 days, BOSH, back on track! What's not so easy to manage is a low mood for no apparent reason, what then? It's hard to 'fix' something when you don't know what the problem is. URGH!

I decided to investigate this funk I was in a little further, starting in front of the mirror. As I looked at my 3 month un-coloured hair, my tired un-manicured hands and the winter comfort-eating 'love handles' that have newly set up residence above each of my hips, it suddenly dawned on me: I feel rubbish because I haven't been looking after myself! I've been so busy enjoying life that I've completely neglected time for self care! 'Self care' being anything as simple as having a bath and putting on a face mask to a full on spa retreat in Thailand, whatever floats your particular boat!

Personally I really struggle to justify spending my hard earned cash on something I deem 'superficial'. I'm someone that would choose experience over anything 'material' but, in the spirt of investigation, I grabbed my book and strutted right into my local beauty salon for an afternoon mani/pedi. At first I couldn't relax, thinking about all the things I had to do this weekend, thinking it was a waste of money, thinking about the next holiday I should be booking - all the usual things my overactive brain ponders within a 2 minute window. Slowly but surely however, I began to lose myself in the chapters of my book, my haggard feet softening inside the warm foot spa, I felt relaxed, like really relaxed. 

Don't ask me the science of it, but something about 2 hours peace and quiet from the world, with glossy fingers and toes, not only lifted my mood that afternoon but left me feeling so much better than I had felt in the mirror only a few hours prior. Now don't get me wrong, I've not suddenly converted to some fake nails, fake hair, fake tan bombshell of a babe (If that's your style, rock it, you do you, no haters here!) but taking some time to do something as simple as paint my nails to make myself feel a bit more confident had a huge impact on my mood and even led to booking 3 gym classes this week, THAT'S a ripple effect if ever I saw one!

We may turn our noses up at vanity, even protest we don't have time for it, but if I've learnt anything this week it's that nothing bad comes from giving yourself a little boost and some good, old fashioned TLC.




Liz Morphew

Psychologies Magazine Ambassador and Contributor, Singer Songwriter

Psychologies Magazine Ambassador & Contributor | Singer Songwriter


Go to the profile of Sheila Bregeon
over 3 years ago

This was exactly what I needed to read this evening, so I've just booked myself a massage! Thank you

Go to the profile of Liz Morphew
over 3 years ago

AMAZING Shelia, enjoy every minute of it! Good for you xxx

Go to the profile of Debbie Wyatt
over 3 years ago

Thank you. After reading this I definitely think I need to invest in some self care!

Go to the profile of Liz Morphew
over 3 years ago

Treat yourself Debbie, you’ll feel so much better! Xx