Listening for the signs

What signs do you look for to direct you in your life & ensure you care for yourself?

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I have a confession to make, I've never been very good at caring for myself. There I said it. There should be an equivalent of Alcoholics Anonymous for those of us who don't care for ourselves, because not caring for yourself can be as devastating to your health as alcoholism, drugs, etc. Trust me, I know.

I have always put other needs before my own. I'm very good at recognising the signs for other people and directing them, my empathic skills are often on high alert. But for me, I've always argued with myself and ignored the signs guiding me in what to do. I think particularly for women that we fall foul of this, though I do know men do to. However the pressure women put on themselves means we do not listen to those warning signs to stop and pause.

Our unconscious mind gives us signals all the time, now admittedly the unconscious mind can be lazy and will always look for the easiest route to get somewhere, but it is also trying to tell us stuff and most of the time we don't listen.

Each of us will have different signs and different responses, I've noticed that for me my unconscious mind has figured out the only way to make me stop is to impair me in a way that I cannot do anything. Cough and colds, aches and pains don't stop me. In fact many things don't (I've been diagnosed with CFS/ME for 8 years and I still keep going even on rough days, in fact the doctors said I would when they diagnosed me). So my unconscious mind knows how to stop me - sickness and diarrhoea, though last summer the sprained ankle and torn achilles tendon was a good one. Though sometimes it can simply be my car keys going missing or a notice a trend of things happening a word, or an image. I'm coming to realise that I need to listen to the signs and my gut instinct more. Is it telling me to slow down, or is it stopping me from attending something that I wasn't sure I wanted to go to thats diverting me from my ultimate goal? It can be difficult to decipher.

You see I'm on a journey of self discovery, determining my career path for the future and I keep being pulled in different directions and for me my choice is not two paths it is many and opportunities keep arising and sometimes it can be scary making the right choices. My conscious mind thinks it's making the right decisions, but when I get stopped in my tracks by my unconscious mind then I start to question and realise deep down something wasn't right.

So listen out to your signs. Do you notice that you always have a certain illness or something happen just before you are going to do something you don't like or aren't sure of? Is it your unconscious mind taking the easy way out, or is it telling you that you should be following a different path. Keep a journal and note any trends, tap into your unconscious, recognise when it's trying to make you lazy or when it's trying to give you a sign. Get to know your unconscious mind in the same way you know all those people you help. Know when to listen and know when to push through.

Watch out for those signs.

Haulwen Nicholas

Life Coaching with a hint of witchery, The Magical Mojo Coach (Haulwen Ltd)

I reconnect people with wonder, magic and learning so that together we can heal the world. That way we can begin a journey of reconnection with the inner wise woman, only then can you create the life of your dreams. I am a fully qualified NLP (Neuro-Linguistic Programming) Coach, Myers Briggs, Hypnotherapy and Time Line Therapy TM practitioner. I run the Magical Mojo Academy an online community and platform for group coaching for individuals who want to take control of their own journal of re-discovery, self-care and self-development for an affordable monthly membership free. I also run a free community The Mojo Coaching Club to give monthly free hints and tips for women wanting to change their lives.


Go to the profile of Julie Spencer
almost 4 years ago

The fifth paragraph is quite relatable. Humanity is capable of so much, however we are often conditioned to believe there is only one way, one strength, one chapter in the life story, but that isn't true. There are many choices, many chapters and many strengths; timing is often a factor. I like that you often take time out to look at the signs. For me, recently I've been acting on the signs, then too having doubts. It is almost like an awakening of the senses. Thoughts and triggers I haven't experienced in a very long time. Instead of thinking that the signs are offering direction, ask yourself, do these routes make you smile? If they do, give them a try. If not, then be happy to wait. Life isn't a race it is a process. In the tale of the Rabbit and the Tortoise, I always wanted to be the fast rabbit even though it came last. It was never about the winning, it was about being quick at what I did.  Today, I am content in appreciating the tortoise, a slower route often gives us time to think, what is the overall aim?

Go to the profile of Haulwen Nicholas
almost 4 years ago

Thank you so much for taking the time to comment Julie. Very wise words and it is an intuition that we can fear to follow sometimes. Its something I really want to help people with so they know they can find the answers. Love the Tortoise and hare analogy. Many thanks Haulwen