Is The Grass Really Greener?

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I used to spend a lot of time comparing my life / circumstances to others, in particular, my more 'successful' friends.

I'd like to state for the record here that this never came from a bad, resentful place, in fact I LOVE that I have amazing friends! Having said that, it did come from a place of lack and dissatisfaction with my own life.

I've always had so much to be grateful for: good health, never out of work for too long, a supportive family etc, etc. On the flip side I have to say, there's a distinct difference between 'getting what you want' and 'wanting what you get'. 

I'd love to be a millionaire for example, but the likelihood of that happening causes me little to almost no stress on a daily basis. However, something a simple as feeling lonely can have a huge impact on your mental wellbeing and overall satisfaction with life. You don't have to have an awful life to have an unhappy life and often the most 'successful' people are hiding an inner suffering that the outside world could never see.

This brings me to the point of this article. In times of unhappiness it's easy to want someone else's life. But, if it actually came down to it, would you really trade places? The same goes for uncertainty, if someone could tell you tomorrow the exact outcome of your life, would you actually want to know or do you secretly love the unknown, the possibility a new day brings?

I'm currently reading 'The Science of Getting Rich' by Wallace D Wattles (A. Yea I know, but I kinda wanna be rich now, so stop your judging! and B. WHAT a name! Let's all take a minute to congratulate Wallace's parents for the badass start they gave to their son's life!...I digress, I digress..) Fundamentally it's a step by step guide to the principles of getting rich - spoiler alert - but beyond that it's a lesson in 'I'm feeling stuck / unsatisfied with my life' Psychology. One of my favourite paragraphs reads: 

'Man must pass from the competitive to the creative mind; he must form a clear mental picture of the things he wants, and hold this picture in his thought with the fixed PURPOSE to get what he wants, and the unwavering FAITH that he does get what he wants, closing his mind to all that may tend to shake his purpose, dim his vision, or quench his faith.'

In a nutshell, when life hands you lemons, don't resist them, don't wish you had someone else's life, embrace what is, and trust that it's leading you somewhere. Often we think the end of something is just that when in reality, it's actually the start of something even better, we just need to believe.

Do I think the grass is ever greener you ask, OH HELLS NO! My advise: Water your own grass, be patient and you might just end up where you always wanted to be.


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Liz Morphew

Psychologies Magazine Ambassador and Contributor, Singer Songwriter

Psychologies Magazine Ambassador & Contributor | Singer Songwriter