Expectations Or Disappointments

Are our expectations making us unhappy?

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I started writing this weekly blog at the end of 2017. 

Each week I set aside a couple of hours, pour myself a mug of coffee and let the ideas blossom onto this very page. I try not to overthink, plan or control the process too much, I simply sit here and what happens, happens.

I believe this is known as Flow. To be honest, I couldn't care less what you label it, I just know that it feels amazing to be so engrossed in what I'm doing that all  my usual thoughts and worries fade away, I'm just so content to sit here and type.

This is how I feel now, but what happens if I sit down to write one day and it doesn't come so easily? Or perhaps I'll have to write for something important {INSERT SELF PROMOTION: https://www.rachel-kelly.net/never-lose-face-youre-a-popstar/} will it be good enough, will I crumble under the pressure, what if it stops being fun?

When something you enjoy suddenly becomes more then just a hobby, why does the pressure change, why are there so many expectations?

Don't get me wrong, some expectation can be brilliant, in fact an attitude of expectation / belief in yourself can be what propels you towards your goals and aligns you where you need to be (Ask, believe, receive and all that..) but sometimes, expectation can be the very thing that kills the idea, the project or even the relationship.

Expecting too much from a person, a job, or pretty much anything in life, can often leave us underwhelmed, disappointed and even frustrated. I suppose expectation can be seen as a way of control; if you know what's coming it's less frightening, you feel prepared, you know what you need to do. It's when we get lost in other people's expectations that the empowerment stops.

You should have this or that, you should be {INSERT LIFE STAGE} by now, should you be eating that? Expectation can be soul destroying when taken in larges doses.

I think like most people I suffer from a bout of the expectation blues from time to time but I'm happy to say this is self induced and not at the mercy of others opinions. When I sat down and truly worked out what I wanted from my life, and started doing it, I just stopped caring about what other people thought of it. I'd even go as far as to say I'm far more open minded now and actually gravitate toward people who aren't just 'ticking the life boxes' but choosing to life their lives how they want to, however odd it may seem to some.

Are you living how you want to live? Could yours or someone else's expectations be affecting that? Letting go is never an easy thing to do, but it can often be the thing that's holding you back..


'Peace begins when expectation ends'

'Trade your expectations for appreciatation and the whole world changes' 

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Liz Morphew

Psychologies Magazine Ambassador and Contributor, Singer Songwriter

Psychologies Magazine Ambassador & Contributor | Singer Songwriter


Go to the profile of Nanette Foran
over 3 years ago

Liz, Liz, Liz,

Could this article have come at a morepivotal point in my life, but now. Of all the days, it was this very day I needed to see, hear and read in black and white

“Letting go is never an easy thing to do,  but it can often be the thing that’s holding you back...”

This has confirmed even more that this is my life and that I need to stop living others peoples expectations!

You girl, just know where it hits home, and my goodness did I need to hear it. 

Just love your weekly blog, you’re doing a truly fab job and trust me it helps in this crazy but also amazing world we live in to hear that we don’t have to have our shit together all the time (or if like me, at anytime) 

Nxx (aka mumma bear)

Go to the profile of Liz Morphew
about 3 years ago

Thank you so much Nads! xx