New Year Top Trumps: Stair Master or Psychotherapist?

My email and phone accounts light up in January, as people come out the christmas hibernations, shake themselves down, and wonder, what next, what does the future hold?

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Christmas is over.  You feel 2kg heavier, and irritable. Something needs to change, but you're not sure exactly what.  Gyms fill up with with hope and enthusiasm. Maybe they're on to something, you think, as you drive and jostle for a parking space.   In your mind you are a character from the Last Jedi, but you end up tapping your phone as you the languidly caress the stair master and your mind wanders over the family encounters of Christmas and new year.  That was quite a lot of exposure to other people's stuff.  Low level radioactivity.  You need a way to decontimate yourself from all that intensty, get some perspective, you turn up the dial of the Stair Master a couple of notches and hope to sweat it out.  If only you can get yourself back into shape, everything will be ok.  

Yet, you sometimes feel like a character from Big Little Lies, on the verge of something catrastrophic, anxiety gnawing at you, sleep fitful, something not quite right.  Or at least you wish you Nicole Kidman's view onto the rugged wild sea, if not her domestic set up.  Ok, so you are not planning on going to a shooting range, or mudering anyone, but sometimes you feel fury rising in you.  You can't quite pin it down to anything exactly.  You wonder if some fresh air will will calm you down, or a trip to the GP.  Is this just how life is supposed to be?  Should you reconcile yourself to it?

In my view January is an ideal time to visit a therapist.  Yes, of course, I would say that. But in my experience, with lots of emotions close to the surface, you may find yourself with lots of material to explore in the context of therapeutic relationship.  Use the new year impetus to take a risk exploring a bit deeper.  It's a lot more enticing then returning to the Stair Master in February.

Ajay Khandelwal PhD

Ajay Khandelwal is an experienced psychotherapist and consultant. He welcomes contact and enquiries and is accepting new clients via zoom during the shut down.