Be careful what you wish for, be specific.

Welcome to Psychologies Lifelabs platform. I am over the moon to be a part of this community and I look forward to learning more about everyone here. Happy new year!

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I am delighted to a part of Psychologies Lifelabs Platform as a Psychologies Ambassador.  I have been on a self-development journey, with the help of Psychologies Magazine, for the past 11 years whilst raising my sons alone.  At first this felt self-indulgent and I did not tell a soul what I was working on, my mood boards were hidden away and books stored face down.  Things soon started to happen and my life took a shift onto a positive path.  Great opportunities began to show themselves and my journey became more enjoyable. Not just surviving, but thriving.

When others began to say ‘you always land on your feet’ or ‘good luck seems to come your way’, I wanted to shout about how much effort and thought I had put into living the life I wanted to live, but that was my ego talking.  I now tell myself ‘isn’t it great that it looks easy and effortless to others’.

That’s not to say that sometimes when getting what I thought I wanted, I then realise that I didn’t want it after all and the phrase ‘be careful what you wish for would come to mind’.  Sometimes the universe would be so powerful in giving me what I wanted, that I learnt to be a lot more specific.  So when I asked for Idris Elba to appear in my life, Psychologies delivered, but another reminder that I need to be more specific.

When the magazine lands on my doormat month after month, there is not one issue that doesn’t resonate with one area of my life at that time, and as a reader yourself, I am sure you find this too.

I have created mood boards, I now have three, and I am indeed living the life that I desire.  I have also been to some of the workshops, one of which on how to write a novel which I found really interesting and informative; it looks like a lot of work but I hope to do this one day.

I have retrained as a coach as I no longer feel the need to keep all my learnings to myself, and I am more than happy to share and no longer put books face down.  I also run self-development workshops monthly in association with Life Clubs, whose training and materials are a constant inspiration, I would go so far as to say magical.

My goals and commitments for 2018 are as follows:

  1. To attend an art class starting in February – having always been told I was the least artistic member of the family, I am challenging this
  2. To go with my dancing buddies to a dance retreat in Portugal, leaving my sons alone in the house for the first time – two huge challenges and before you call social services they will be 17, 19 & 21
  3. To finish reading ‘The 7 habits of highly effective people’ – this has been on my coffee table forever
  4. Watch less Netflixs and drink less wine – this is rolling on from previous years

I would love to hear what your goals and commitments are, please share.

Take good care

Sarah xx

Sarah Thornton

Coach & Trainer, Sarah Thornton

I have had a long and interesting career in both the hospitality and education sectors. For the past 5 years I have been in Learning & Development Manager roles where I began to see coaching as the most useful tool when managing teams. Skills can be taught but behaviour is inherent, therefore self-awareness, which coaching encourages, means that you have a sound understanding of who you are as a person and how you relate to the world in which you live. When you are self-aware, you know your strengths and weaknesses and how to manage them. Isn’t it better to manage yourself than to be managed by others? Coaching comes naturally to me, and I have been doing it for over 5 years, but to ensure that I am qualified to lead others in this field I trained with Practical Coach Training to complete an ILM Level 7 Certificate in Executive Coaching and Mentoring. This course meant that experienced coaches demonstrated and then assessed my coaching skills to a high level, so that I am qualified to work and call myself a coach. I search to make a difference to the quality of work and life.