Use Your Words Wisely

How many times have you let your tongue run away with you, only to regret the hurt you've caused to those you care about? If you’ve ever wished to make the world around you a more positive place, filled more with love than hurt, then read on for seven simple steps to making the world a kinder place.

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Hey Happiness Explorer, how would you like to feel like the light in someone else’s world AND improve your own life at the same time? Sounds too good to be true? Well, it isn’t, and it’s easier than you’d imagine. This week, Jacqui, looks at the power of words, and how we can use that power for good. In seven simple steps, she shares with us ways to make the world a kinder place, both for others and for ourselves. Happy reading explorers, let your inner light shine bright.

Jacqui Vaughan - Happiness Explorer Coach

“Between what is said and not meant, and what is meant and not said, most of love is lost.” Khalil Gibran

In today’s world, everything moves so fast – our thoughts and words included.

How often do we actually stop to vocalise the little compliment or kind greeting that we thought, but were in too much of a rush to say?

Most importantly do we remember to use kind words with the ones we love. It’s so easy to let that snipe or criticism slip out when we are having a bad day or are hurting inside, but how often do we stop and take the time to tell someone all the things we appreciate about them… the things that we assume they know… the things that will make them feel loved or appreciated?

Our words can carry more weight than we realise, they may make the difference between giving someone the strength to move forwards or driving them to give up. A careless word at the wrong moment has the possibility to affect someone’s self-image or confidence indefinitely.

Scientific research has shown that even simple repetition of positive words like love, peace and compassion, activates specific hormones that lower your physical and emotional stress. If you can think positive thoughts you’ll feel better and you’ll build closer and more positive relationships with others. Try to be aware and listen to the things you say, both out loud and to yourself. Be sure to make more positive comments than negative ones.


– Positive words build people up. When was the last time you took time to compliment or praise someone around you? Encouraging words cost nothing and can mean the world to those who receive them.

–  The efforts you make to be a kinder person can be undermined in a thoughtless moment. Sometimes we act without thought or react impulsively to make ourselves feel better. When was the last time you said something negative or hurtful to someone just because you were hurting? If we don’t stop to think and reconnect with ourselves before we speak or react, it’s entirely possible that we will lose who we really are due to heightened emotions or hurt. Choose your words wisely and speak them slowly.

– Negative talk and thoughts are self-perpetuating. The more you engage in negative conversations or thought patterns the harder it becomes to break the cycle. How often have you felt yourself drained by negative talk, how has that led you to behave? Positive conversations lift you up and empower you…. when was the last time you shared a positive experience?


1. Next time something good happens to you, share it with someone. We are all quick to share a bad experience, try to share the positive too.

2. Try to turn around a negative conversation. Don’t get involved in gossip. If you find yourself caught up in a negative dialogue try to steer the conversation onto a more positive track. If you can’t, consider walking away… in a positive way of course 😉

3. Smile and greet people you pass in the street. Just a little thing like this can put a warm feeling in someone else’s heart and make their day a little better. I’m not suggesting you grin inanely at every passer-by, but a few “good mornings” and a warm smile never hurt anyone, especially the older generation – you never know, you may be the only person they connect with all day.

4. Send a nice message to someone. It’s easy to lose touch with those we care about in the rush of our daily lives. Let them know you are thinking about them and how much they mean to you.

5. Give someone a compliment. It could be the checkout girl with the nice perfume, the waitress with the fab hairdo or the colleague who’s wearing great shoes today. If they have made the effort, let them know you’ve noticed.

6. Find a special way to say thank you when others do things that make you happy. Show your appreciation – it’s easy to take those around us for granted.

7. Positively acknowledge others’ abilities and efforts. If someone feels inadequate, encourage them. You may be able to do the job twice as fast, but what gain is there from pointing that out? Be the person who makes someone else feel like they are growing and achieving.

“How far that little candle throws his beams!  So shines a good deed in a weary world.” – William Shakespeare

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Lydia Kimmerling

Life Coach, Spiritual Teacher, Speaker, The Happiness Explorer

Hey, I'm Lydia Kimmerling I am MAD, CRAZY, PASSIONATE about helping you to create a life you're super excited to wake up to. Being happy...ish, inspired...ish and fulfilled...ish is never quite enough, is it? When you feel like there is "more" out there for you, it's because there is. A life where you can't remember the last time you worried, stressed or doubted yourself and your friends ask you "What's your secret?" because you GLOW, SPARKLE and SHINE. That can be you and I will show you how. I got my first television job at 17, ran my own restaurant in Panama at 22, taught Hip Hop in Cornwall at 26, was cabin crew for Virgin Atlantic at 28, coached CEO's on confidence at 29, then at 30 took the leap as a certified life & business coach with The International Coaching Federation to launch my very own transformational company called The Happiness Explorer. I am a master of change, so I can tell you that there is NEVER really anything to fear, but has it always been easy? NO! I have blocks, down days and self-doubt too, life doesn't stop throwing you curve balls, it's how you catch the ball and throw it back that changes. Plus, you never know until you try, right? At 32, I now know what the key is to waking up every single day excited about the life you live. It is to know yourself inside and out and to love every part of who you are.The more you know yourself, the more of you there is to love and the more you love yourself, the more you want to give yourself a life you love. The question is…What do you really want?