Self-Care Comes First 

Why does self-care fall at the end of the line when it comes to our list of life priorities?

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Why does self-care fall at the end of the line when it comes to our list of life priorities? Why do we postpone taking care of our emotional wellbeing for another time? Seeing a therapist to address emotional challenges is one facet of self-care that is often put off for months or even years. With only 60 days until the New Year many individuals may have a vague sense of how they would like to feel in 2018. New Year is the time when many see self-care at the forefront of the mind and it can be the prompt for self-care to be addressed. So as the evenings grow darker and the autumn months kick in it’s easy to find a million reasons to put off that search for a therapist. As a psychotherapist, I encourage my clients to consider their self-care all year round. As humans we are psychologically primed to start new behaviours and stop old behaviours, so why wait until New Year to put your well-being first?


Waiting to address emotional concerns, or stress can lead to worsening of symptoms and a decreased ability to cope.  As an individual, you may begin to have difficulty controlling events in your life and activities or tasks that were once routine to you which now appear more and more challenging. When considering seeing a therapist, think of it not as a task that will add to your burden of things to do. Seeing a therapist is quite the contrary. You will be taking a huge emotional load off your back with sharing your struggles, rather than trying to manage life difficulties on your own.


If you’ve thought that seeing a therapist might be a good idea, avoid deliberating on the thought too long. Hesitation can lead to developing reasons and excuses to avoid or postpone your self-care. You as an individual deserve the time and space to allow yourself to face or explore your challenges, burdens, and worries, even if only during the time and within the confines of a therapy session. Not everyone “needs” to be in therapy but there is no better time than the present for those who have considered it. You might be amazed at the healing effects of allowing yourself the time to let go of what you’ve been holding on to. 


Samantha Carbon

UKCP Psychotherapist & Clinical Supervisor

Samantha Carbon UKCP Psychotherapist

Samantha Carbon is a psychotherapist running a private practice. Following a background in the financial industry, Samantha set out to follow her true passion and pursue her training as a psychotherapist. Today, Samantha assists people in the process of finding the peace of mind they deserve. In particular she works with individuals with a history of addictive behaviours such as alcohol, drugs, sex & gambling. She works with individuals who experience depression, anxiety, loss, work related stresses and gender dysphoria, as well as couples. She is dedicated to supporting people to identify their self-worth and improve the quality of their lives. She works with corporates in understanding workplace diversity, understanding intolerances and biases.