Learn the 8 steps for 'worrying well'

'I've always been a worrier.' 'I tend to over-think things' 'I'm too analytical' These are some of the statements clients often make at the start of a first session. The trouble is, worrying can get to be a habit, and every worrying thought has an effect on how we feel emotionally and physically. It affects our behaviour too.

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Jun 16, 2015
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Worry worms

Endless worrying thoughts can be like annoying worms that wriggle their way into our everyday life, making us feel anxious and distressed. If you find you have the same worries going round and round in your head, draining your energy, the reality is you’re just not worrying 'efficiently'. A worry worm uses energy and can eat its own weight in serotonin, your feel-good hormone.

So, if you're going to worry, at least learn to 'worry well' and make stress really work for you.


The Worry Book. Instructions for use

Set aside some time every day when you do nothing but worry and problem solve.

If you are bothered by worrying thoughts outside your worry time, STOP! and notice what the worry worm is saying. Put it down in a 'worry book' and assure the worry worm you will give it attention at the designated hour. Now your worry worm can settle back down and stop tapping you on the shoulder to get your attention.

Remember, our emotions are our very best friends and are always trying to help us in some way. Even the worry worm (let's call him William for fun) has your best interests at heart.

William, the worry worm is actually quite wise. He understands your innate needs and will let you know when they are not being met, but he won't necessarily know what you have to do to resolve the situation. You will have to do that for yourself!

So when William the worry worm pops up, notice what he is saying, then... STOP! write it down and let it go....for now.

At worry time, open the book and start to sort through all the current worries. Now use the 8 step formula for 'worrying well' which includes the 4D approach, 'Do, Delay, Delegate or Ditch.'


8 steps for worrying well

  1. What is the worry?
  2. Scale significance 1-10 where 10 is urgent
  3. What's my worst fear about this?
  4. What's the best possible outcome or scenario?
  5. Do I need to 'Do' something about this now?
  6. Can I 'Delay' a decision?
  7. Can I 'Delegate' this worry to someone else?
  8. Do I need to 'Ditch' the worry and accept there is nothing I can do about this situation ?

If there is something you can do, do it!Make a plan of action and break it down into bight sized chunks. Have a strategy for resolution. What can you do to resolve this problem?

If there is nothing you can do about this worry, let it go or 'put it on the back burner.'

Repeat this exercise every day until you have tamed your worm and become a truly efficient worrier and, if you can put into practise the philosophy of the ancient Tibetans, you will truly have the secret of Zen-like inner peace and serenity.


Tibetan serenity meditation

‘Grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change,


Courage to change the things I can,


And wisdom to know the difference’


Frances Masters MBACP GHGI FRTC

http://www.thefusionmodel.com

http://www.integratedcoachingacademy.com





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Frances A Masters

Psychotherapist, Coach, Writer. Live your best life.

Do you want to be happier and more resilient? Some people seem to just 'bounce back' no matter what life throws at them. We can't choose many of life's events but we certainly do have a choice about how we respond. My passion for mental health began 25 years ago when I suffered postnatal depression and realised the help I needed simply wasn't there. The pills didn't work. In fact they made things worse. What I really needed was to understand how anxiety, depression and emotional ill health can develop. I needed to learn good 'mind management' skills which would act like a 'psychological inoculation' against future problems. When I recovered, I made a decision to find out how and why I had become so depressed and made a personal pledge to do something to provide the kind of help for others which I had needed. I wanted to prevent people suffering unnecessarily. So I embarked on a personal and professional journey and, along the way, developed a brand new approach to health and well-being. My journey began with four years of traditional counselling training, followed by a postgraduate diploma in psychotherapy. I studied cognitive behavioural therapy (CBT) neuro-linguistic programming (NLP), hypnotherapy, coaching and cognitive neuroscience. I built up 30,000 hours professional experience which I brought together into the new happiness and resilience programme l named 'Fusion.' I also wrote a book about how to resolve post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD), founded a therapeutic coaching charity and trained volunteers to work in this new way. This training programme would later become the nationally accredited Fusion Therapeutic Coaching Diploma and Distance Learning Skills Certificate. Now... The journey continues. Now I want to reveal all my professional secrets about good mind management to as many people as possible through social media and by training Fusion Breakthrough trainers from all over the world. One of them could be you... Something new.. Something different.. Something which lasts.. What if you could experience one day which could actually change your life for good; giving you your own eureka moment; not only helping you create a vision of the life you want to live, but actually give you the real skills to get there and stay there? Fusion is a tried and tested system which combines the best of psychotherapy and coaching into a powerful new formula for lasting change. My aim is to help and empower as many people as possible to feel their best, be their best and live their best lives. Perhaps I could help you too....

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