Looking For Love Part 2
Some favourite tips on ways to build self love using practical application in our everyday lives.
In part 2 of Looking For Love I wanted to share some final thoughts on how to practically be self-loving. I mean not just a self-love that is intellectualised in our head but is put into practice in the way we speak to and treat ourselves.
Self-love is not a passive feeling but can be built and strengthened over time through compassionate and aware action.
However it does take discipline and regularity, determination, sensitivity, care and patience. Self-love is not a quick fix but a lifetime assignment that must be constantly tended to.
Here are five of my favourite tips for practical application.
5 top tips for that self-love vibe
·In the same way you celebrate birthdays and special occasions diarise a day every three to six months that’s all about you? Name this day after you. So my day is a ‘Jackee day.’
·Write yourself the kind of love letter you'd love to receive. After a while what you write will start to rub off on you. Tuck the letter into a journal or notebook, somewhere you know you’ll come across it at a later stage.
·Forgive, forgive and forgive some more. Forgive others and most importantly forgive, forgive yourself. Do this as often and as many times as you can. Self-love thrives on forgiveness of self and others.
·Be your own flower giver. How about treating yourself to a bunch of pink peonies over the next seven days? They’re in season right now and are the Chinese flower of love. Thanks to my friend Rebecca Campbell for her suggestion in this blog post
·Did you know that your greatest strengths lie close by your greatest flaws? Can you name how you’ve grown stronger at those broken places in your life? Everyone has them. Write down the strengths that have emerged from the broken places. Get the list out whenever you need reminding.
I leave you with the words from the poet and mystic Rumi. His words are a meditation on looking for love.
“You wander from place to place. You hunt for a necklace of diamonds. It is already around your neck.”