Why falling in love with yourself should be your top priority for a happy life

The first in a series of 10 blogs. The advice of 5 incredible women on their journey to self-love from the new viral film '10 things you need to know to love yourself today'

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Her Invitation recently released a film self-love ‘10 things you need to know to love yourself today’.  5 every day women, having gone through life’s traumas and issues, each one with a massive personal journey to self-love and they spoke publicly for the first time about that journey, hoping it will inspire millions of women, like you and me, to love ourselves.

This is the 1st blog is a series of 10 detailing what THEY did to establish a loving relationships with themselves – and it’s here for you, to make your own.

Here is Jenni Hallam’s advice

Tell yourself ‘I love you’

“I tell myself ‘I love you’ every day” says Jenni Hallam, one of the stars of the film. “I actually hug myself and I focus on the wonderful things about me and I thank myself for things and I praise myself for things, in the way I would with somebody I loved. It’s taken exercise but I’m there”.

Now for Jenni, that’s a far cry from the routine she USED to have! Berating herself, going on drastic diets, exercising constantly, convincing herself she was never good enough, believing she was never destined to reach her ideal of ‘perfect’.

Establishing a practice of self-love means exactly that – doing things for yourself that bring you pleasure – physically, emotionally, spiritually.  In turn, that practice of self-love also brings you balance and contentment – it’s actually vital for us to take the time to feel our way into this.

So many women are familiar with bringing love and pleasure into other people’s lives via all kinds of methods – by giving presents, organising special days, spending time with people, hugs, kisses, praise, helping them be positive, seeing things from a different perspective – each of those are very common ways of demonstrating to another how much they are loved – held in high esteem, thought highly of.

Self-love means doing things like that for yourself.

  • What would you do?
  • Where would you start?
  • How would you talk to yourself?
  • Where would you take yourself off to?
  • What thoughts would you actively give yourself?
  • What activity really makes you feel grounded, beautiful, special and taken care of?

Think about it.  If you really took time to establish a routine of self-love with yourself, how different would you feel?

Some of my happiest clients establish a routine of self-appreciation/self-love as a result of our sessions together. They understand what their sensitive areas are, they’ve answered those questions above, they’ve really thought about them and they’ve put into place a routine to counteract the negativity.   

What that means is that they are less likely to fall into confusion or drama or stress or anxiety, because before they’ve done anything else that day – they’ve taken time to look after themselves, balance themselves emotionally, physically, spiritually.

Your practice of self-love will be unique so it requires some thought, but it’s the VERY best and most beautiful care routine you will ever put into place.

It’s time you know. Imagine if every woman in the world practiced self-love and made her own self-care a priority. This is about working with yourself to find ways to self-appreciate, to give yourself valuable gifts (time, praise, healthy food, space to think).

What do you need? 

For more information on the tips in our film, you can download your own FREE Guide to Self-love by clicking here

See Jenni's LIVE interview with Lynette Allen - watch the replay on FaceBook right here!


Lynette Allen

Ceremony holder, Ritualista, Writer & lover of sacred plant medicine Cacao, A Woman's Blessing

Lynette Allen is a modern day medicine woman, using the sacred plant medicine Cacao, ritual and meditation to bring alignment to source and grounding to earth, for her and her clients. Her 20 year career has seen her write 4 books (her 5th to be released soon), she is a TV/Radio presenter, broadcaster and international speaker on the rise of the feminine (for corporates and the good of the earth). She currently lives on the edge of the jungle in Bali with her husband Mark and youngest daughter Livvie aged 7. She is also mum to Rosi and Nanny to Rhoda and Mac