7 Top Tips for Building Confidence

Too much fear and insufficient confidence are major barriers to success. What would you do if you were not afraid to do it?

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Apr 09, 2015
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I am passionate about supporting people to raise their personal energy levels, but there is little use having more energy if you lack the confidence to express yourself fully.

So let me share some of my favourite tips for building confidence.

I consider myself to be a fairly confident person; my rather shy nature has faded over the years. My work has me meeting lots of interesting people. I have spoken to large audiences all over the world and I seldom find that daunting. But like many people there are times when the challenges I set for myself push me to my edge and doubts and fears arise. Doubts play havoc with confidence and fear can be extremely paralysing. I was speaking recently to a small audience and it was more unnerving than speaking before an audience of thousands. I had to slow down, go inside and trust the right words would start to flow and of course they did. We all need confidence to succeed. So next time your confidence needs a boost, try following these 7 simple tips for building confidence.

1. Remember you are never alone: you are part of the creative universe. You have a vast energy working through, around and for you. So shift your attention from focusing on any nervousness of your own to thinking about other people and how you can put them at ease. If you want to appear confident, be the one to start the conversation. Always have 2/3 conversation openers up your sleeve!

2. Visualise what you want to create: use your minds eye to see yourself successfully achieving your end goal. Top athletes use this technique all the time. They see themselves winning. Whenever you set out on a task, big or small, visualise yourself winning.

3. Don’t be afraid to voice your intentions: letting people witness your plans helps them support you. Before I wrote my first book, I told people I was writing a book. Technically I wasn't actually writing, not at that stage; but then people started asking me about the book and slowly, after much deliberating and a commitment to honour my word, my book was finally completed. People’s comments and enthusiasm along the way supported my goal.

4. Be open to change: This may sound overly simplistic but if you want things to be different; be prepared to act different, and then be open to the positive results that change creates.

5. Think of someone who exudes confidence, boldness, and courage: clarify what actions they would take in your situation and boldly adopt the same or similar stance for yourself.

6. Prepare and rehearse, then let go and relax: Do all you can to be fully prepared for success, make a checklist and tick all the boxes on completion. Ask a good friend to help you rehearse, or speak out loud into a mirror. Rehearse every possible scenario for interviews, negotiations, presentations etc. Do all you can then let go and relax. Allow the creative universal energy to work though, around and for you. Letting go and allowing is a very important part of expressing yourself and being confident

7. Apply all the above steps, then simply faith it till you make it.

I wish you every success with all that is unfolding in your life right now.

Be bold, bodacious and beautiful!

"What a caterpillar calls the end of the world, the rest of the world calls a butterfly"

Caroline Shola Arewa - Wellness Coach, Speaker, Author

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Caroline Shola Arewa

Psychologist, Wellness Coach, Speaker, Author , Energy 4 Life

Psychologist, Yoga Teacher, Wellness Coach and Author, Caroline Shola Arewa has inspired people worldwide for 30 years with her pioneering and award winning work. After the stress of running a successful fashion business, Shola went on a spiritual journey, climbing Everest, sailing the Nile swimming in the Great Barrier Reef and learning from wise Elders around the world. A journey that completely transformed her life. Now she is the founder of Energy 4 Life wellness coaching www.energy-4life.com offering people the opportunity to get their Energy back and Life on track using health and conscious living techniques. She has five published books, including the best seller Opening to Spirit, now in its 15 year anniversary edition. Shola writes on psychology and wellness for numerous health and lifestyle magazines including, Yoga Magazine and Arik Airline. She is also a featured expert in the highly acclaimed film Yogawoman. As a Coach, Speaker, Trainer and Author Shola offers informative and fun presentations on all aspects of holistic wellness, mindfullness, personal development and stress reduction. www.shola.co.uk "Transforming Lives and creating greater Health, Happiness and Success is my main mission."

9 Comments

Go to the profile of Diane Priestley
Diane Priestley almost 3 years ago

A very inspiring and helpful article Caroline. I love all seven points and will take them to heart when I need to push through anxiety and embrace confidence. Thank you

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Caroline Shola Arewa almost 3 years ago

Thanks Diane. I appreciate your comment, I wanted to share simple things we can all use. No matter how high we climb, there always seems to be new levels of confidence for us to reach. Wishing you continued success with all you do. Blessings Shola

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Caroline Shola Arewa almost 3 years ago

Thanks Diane. I appreciate your comment, I wanted to share simple things we can all use. No matter how high we climb, there always seems to be new levels of confidence for us to reach. Wishing you continued success with all you do. Blessings Shola

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Ray Jones almost 3 years ago

I like the way you use your U's (favourite) and S's (Visualise), etc.
But then again, I'm just weird like that....lol
Great advice! Very useful.

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Caroline Shola Arewa almost 3 years ago

Where are you based Ray? How I use my U's, and S's is standard English spelling to my knowledge? Pleased you like it! Weird is good! Thanks Shola

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Pauline Scott almost 3 years ago

I loved your article and will keep these7 points in mind, so useful😄. You was a blast from the past this morning I bought your book many years ago. Thanks for your knowledge and wisdom your are a great teacher😄

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Caroline Shola Arewa almost 3 years ago

Thanks Pauline. A blast from the past, still here and going strong, probably have 4 more books since then, pleased you loved the article, enjoy and stay blessed. :-)

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Jolanta Lizewski almost 3 years ago

Letting go is the hardest think to do ?!

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Caroline Shola Arewa almost 3 years ago

It can be hard Jolanta, I use the 'Faith it till you Make it' approach, for more on that sign up for my newsletter www.shola.co.uk, I am talking about exactly that in this months newsletter. Blessings Shola