Let's Collaborate

Why collaboration is way better than independence

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Independence has always been something that I’ve been known for.

Whilst I love the company of others (yes I am an extrovert) I have also been known in the past for being quite independent, particularly where my creativity was concerned.

But that’s all been turned on its head in recent years.

Here’s why…

When I grew up you were taught at school that independence and achievement were closely connected. It was important to have a point of view, to reach and stretch yourself and achieve your potential. Whether intentional or not, it created competition, and the thing that seemed to matter the most was what grades you achieved, not necessarily how you did it but how you did against everyone else.

It’s a model based on scarcity and assumptions. The need to achieve the best grades in order to win the top university places and then land the best graduate positions.

It’s taken me a good few years to unlearn some of these lessons of independence, comparison and competition.

Being in business for myself has been my best teacher in many ways because not only does it get lonely but being fiercely independent isn’t always the best policy.

I believe great leaders are collaborative.

They know their internal strengths and super powers and aren’t concerned about the comparisons.


Because they know that standing out for who they authentically are and what they believe in, is the only way to attract customer relationships that are based on values of integrity and honesty.

Customers aren’t meer people to sell more stuff to. They’re human beings with real needs and concerns that the small business owner can connect and help them with.

The Collaborative Space

Recently I’ve been following the path of energetic resonance.

It’s completely different to the way I originally thought business ideas should be developed e.g. establish the need, create the business plan, produce the content, market and sell the content.

Instead, I meet with some like minded souls and we talk about our businesses and then we explore the needs and ideas together. We look for where there are opportunities to collaborate and where we could support each other.

It’s wonderful and for a while it felt counter intuitive.

That old scarcity thing would have me believe that if we were in the same line of business that I should be focussing on creating the most brilliant product, writing the best blog so that readers would be directed towards my business as opposed to yours.

Letting go of those limiting scarcity beliefs has been such a relief because what’s left in it’s place is a much bigger opportunity and playground.

I believe in my line of work that there are many voices needed to help create the change I want to see in the world, which is that we learn to self empower and find our own inner strength and uniqueness. For many years I’ve wanted to create a positive infection and yet how do you do that by being just one person?

It’s not possible right?

Big dreams requires many voices.

A movement has to be more than one person.

So in this wonderful collaborative space, I’ve found some heroes who have challenged the limits of my own imagination and encouraged me to spread my ideas.

And that’s the reason for this blog post. I want to share one of those ideas here with you now.

Upcoming Hump Day Blog

Yes … you read it right ….. I’m going to be featuring a guest blog every Wednesday a.k.a. Hump Day:-)

The reasoning behind it is that I want to inspire you with many voices telling stories of finding their own superhero inside.

I want Hump Day on my blog to be the place where you can stop for 5 minutes and get reassured, centred and inspired through everyday stories finding everyday superheroes.

If you have a story to share or know of someone that might, please forward this post and connect with me here.

And in the meantime, if you feel like there’s an energetic resonance with people around you and you’re not sure why or where it could lead to, just try following it and exploring the energy. You never know, you might enjoy yourself in the process and come up with some new great ideas.

Vanessa Anstee

Life Coach

I'm inspired by who you can be without apology and I want to help you let your real self shine. I've been a life coach for 10 years. I've always been a seeker trying to discover a way of being in life that feels soulful, authentic and aligned to what my heart wants not what my head thinks I should have, be or do. I spent 20+ year career in HR, OD, talent management and executive coaching. My kids were my biggest wake up. I saw the way I was working wasn't working anymore. I couldn't keep pushing myself harder. I had to accept I couldn't attain this perfected version of myself that I had strived most of my life to achieve. I had to find love not from accolades and other people's acceptance but from deep inside me. That's when I learnt to connect to my heart, heal my childhood wounds and fears of never being enough and set light to my passion in a completely new way. I want one thing for my clients. Be real. Be themselves, fall madly in love with that person and honour their soul's calling.


Go to the profile of Charles Thiede
over 7 years ago
This is a great post Vanessa
Go to the profile of Emily Dubberley
over 7 years ago
Collaboration rather than competitin has long been one of my business mantras (I created Cliterati.co.uk because I thought there should be more erotic material available for women, rather than for any financial reason, so any 'competitor' is actually helping achieve this aim - and diversity means more people can be satisfied) Collaboration is also a great way for entrepreneurs to make things happen faster - skill trading and working together can help make everything more affordable (and give everyone more time off) Thanks for writing this piece.