What kind of compassion do you need?

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Often in counselling the work we do is helping clients to find ways to be kind and compassionate to themselves. This may conjure up images of being soft, loving and gentle, of finding ways to relate to yourself with less edge.

However, compassion and kindness is not always like this. Sometimes, when you are lacking energy, hope or motivation the remedy is not about being permissive and gentle, it might be about a more fierce kind compassion, or tough love. It might be about feeling difficult feelings and taking action anyway, or gathering yourself to face the things you have until now avoided. Therapy is not always comfortable, but it should always be impactful. If it is not, how is it helping?

When what you are experiencing or doing is not working for you, ask yourself, what kind of compassion do I need right now; tenderness, playfulness or fierceness? All three are important.

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Fe Robinson, Psychotherapist

Hi. I'm Fe, and I'm here to help you thrive, whatever life brings. I believe every client is unique, I work with you to help you explore, discover and grow in whatever ways are right for you. I work with a wide range of clients, both long and short term. I offer Psychotherapy, EMDR therapy and Couples Counselling to UK clients online and in Durham in North-East England. I am UKCP Accredited and an EMDR Europe Practitioner, and offer Clinical Supervision to counsellors and psychotherapists online and in person. Following a career in Organisation Development I became a therapist because it's my heart work. Before having my family and starting my private practice I worked in the NHS and mental health charities.

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