The Superhero Inside

We all have a superhero inside. There's nothing wrong or missing with you. If you feel stuck, you just need to learn to access the wisdom within.

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I believe that ...

  • We all have a Superhero inside of us.
  • Our superhero knows the answers to the things that we wrestle with.
  • When we quieten our thinking mind, the clarity of the superhero can be found.
  • Everyone's superhero is unique to them.
  • They have their own form of kryptonite and their own super powers

It's part of the first thing that I do with clients is to get them clear about their strengths, learned ways of being and weaknesses.

With that clarity, we then work on values.

We explore the territory of what's really important to their superhero.

We consider what they take a stance for in the world, what they love and what values they must honour to stay in their power.

Why is this important?

Let me use the example of my daughter who's 13. She's starting to think about what she might want to do when she grows up. Her latest thinking is a photographer.

What I notice is that she's looking to existing forms e.g. jobs that she sees, knows of, or are being talked about in the world, to inform her choices.

It's what we do isn't it?
We look to what's already here and work towards that.
Now there's nothing wrong with this, we need many traditional forms of work, but what if you're born to be a pioneer?

What if the form doesn't exist that would have you fit comfortably into a box? What if the form hasn't yet been created?

It might account for why it can be really hard to make choices at young ages based on a library of traditional and established roles.
If you took photography as an example, how do we know all the incredible ways in which photography could be used in the future?
We think in pictures. How might photography revolutionise the way we teach in schools? Or how might photography be used in new ways in the healing process?

So the key question I can ask my daughter when she's older and making her choices isn't what would you do with photography, but what would photography give you?
What do you see as the value being honoured in you, through the medium of photography?

What do you feel when you take a photograph? What does it give you to have share a photograph with someone?

This way we get below the identity of the role of the photographer and find the values that are really important to her.

Why do values matter?

I believe when we follow our own light spots, energy flows.
When we love what we do and we're passionate about it, time goes by in a nano second.
Just think about the last time you got lost in the moment of something... what were you doing? How alive did you feel? What values were being honoured?

If I can encourage my daughter to find her values map first, she's going to be able to either find or create form for her occupation that is aligned with what lights her up. Different jobs may come and go but she has more freedom to explore from a place of knowing within her.

It's completely different to the traditional model of get qualified in something that pays the bills and enables you to live.

Are you stuck on the expected path?

It's natural for us to follow expected paths, we're conditioned to. There's nothing wrong with it. And if we get to a point where we feel like something's missing, it's guidance to look inside and see what your soul is wanting to bring out.

The first step to enable us to do this is to let go.

Let go of the image we have of what we thought we should do.

Now, this is when it can get scary.

Because we've held on to that image and invested in it for a long time.
I know when I let go of my professional HR career I was scared shitless on some level. I'd invested a lot of time into growing myself in this field and accumulated two Masters degrees and a shed load of experience.
Yet another part of me knew there was more available for me.
I had to trust in myself that I could handle whatever showed up and I had to accept that whilst I might have a sense of a vision I had to create the path.
The path began with the first step which in my case was doing some coach training.

In that coach training, I then discovered my values, then my purpose and then my leadership quest.

And if you don't know your values?

It's time to find out.

You can make it super fun.

I get clients to take photographs of things that energise and drain them. They lay them all out on a table and look for the connections. They identify their values and then they reduce them down to 3 or 5 core values.

Another way is looking at peak and low moments. What was going on? What was being honoured or dishonoured?

This is really important work because no one can tell you what you should be doing better than YOU.

You really do know yourself, even when you think you don't.

You are the hero in your own life story and you really do have all the answers.

You just have to unlock them. Let go and let it unfold.

And if that scares you?

Great... walk towards the fear because on the edge of it is a new awareness.

When you know your values you have an internal compass that's completely unique to you. You are at choice to use it or not, but you will know instantly when you're off the map because you'll feel it. You'll feel like you're stuck or that something's missing.

The truth is you just have to come back home to yourself.

Vanessa Anstee

Life Coach

I'm inspired by who you can be without apology and I want to help you let your real self shine. I've been a life coach for 10 years. I've always been a seeker trying to discover a way of being in life that feels soulful, authentic and aligned to what my heart wants not what my head thinks I should have, be or do. I spent 20+ year career in HR, OD, talent management and executive coaching. My kids were my biggest wake up. I saw the way I was working wasn't working anymore. I couldn't keep pushing myself harder. I had to accept I couldn't attain this perfected version of myself that I had strived most of my life to achieve. I had to find love not from accolades and other people's acceptance but from deep inside me. That's when I learnt to connect to my heart, heal my childhood wounds and fears of never being enough and set light to my passion in a completely new way. I want one thing for my clients. Be real. Be themselves, fall madly in love with that person and honour their soul's calling.