What is it like to go to counselling?

Clients share their experiences of their counsellor and how it was to work with them.

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Have you ever wondered what it is like to go to counselling? Have you ever wondered what it is like to speak to a person you don't know about what is troubling you? In this post clients who have had counselling explain what it was like for them. These clients took part in research asking about their views of counselling and how they found it. Here they explain what they thought of their counsellor and how it was to be in a therapeutic relationship with them. These are the clients' own words:

"I would say it was a really positive experience, just being able to sit with somebody who is prepared to listen, not judge but also be able to feedback what’s going on. Basically, to help me clarify what was happening, and I would say it is really good if you are struggling with things, like struggling with something in your life. There is someone there who can help you clarify what is going on and help you work things out for yourself. What is best for you, you know, there is no advice, they don’t tell you what to do, because a lot of people think when they go they think ‘oh you know yeah they will tell me what I should do'. And that is not what it’s about because it is about knowing what you need to do for yourself."

"I felt like I could tell her anything and, you know and I did, I was very open and could be very honest, and kind of felt from early on that there was a connection there."

"Talking to someone who is remaining impartial, remaining calm, willing to listen and I am not worrying that I am upsetting them or annoying them."

"It was a space to just open up really, but you know I think what’s good, what the counsellor allowed me to do, was talk to myself. I suppose in a way, so she’d use trigger words that she was obviously picking up and then she would allow me that time to think ‘okay, let’s like look at that particular thing."

"Just being able to articulate and that person being able to hold it for you and be with you in it. It just felt so supportive I think. It felt supportive and that you know, with someone just there for you. For that bit of you, at that time."

If this sounds like something that would be useful to you then come and try it. Pick up the phone, or send that email today.

Dr Stacey Goldman

I am a gentle but challenging counsellor experienced in both primary care and private practice. I understand that you are coming for counselling because there is some aspect of your life that is troubling you. Our sessions can look at this and work out how to achieve the result that you would like. I qualified in 2003 and as a Registered and Senior Accredited Member of the British Association for Counselling and Psychotherapy I am bound by its Ethical Framework for Good Practice in Counselling and Psychotherapy. I am also registered as a Psychotherapeutic Counsellor with UK Council for Psychotherapy. I am a trained and qualified Supervisor offering supervision to other counsellors. Also, I work as a Skills Tutor at the University of Salford on the MSc in Counselling and Psychotherapy course, training student counsellors in counselling skills. I have researched in depth into counselling, looking at what clients find useful in their sessions. My goal is to work with a client to find the most effective therapy that helps them. I use a range of therapeutic approaches aiming to create a bespoke therapy that meets each individual client’s needs. I have a great deal of experience working with work stress, anxiety and depression and working with relationship difficulties. I am available for all types of general counselling but with particular interest in working with bereavement and loss. I also offer counselling for dealing with cancer and associated trauma, for patients themselves and family or friends also affected by a cancer diagnosis.