In the wake of terror

Here's a blog post I wrote for LBC Radio

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Mar 24, 2017
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We’re all trying to grapple with this new dawn, after trauma. Terror trumps all emotions; fear over-rides all other feelings. It’s our flight or fight mode kicking in. Our collective psyche is wounded. We go primal.

But that’s what the terrorists want. They want to spread fear, they want us shrinking back into our primitive silos. They want us to point the finger of blame at others, to make ourselves feel better about ourselves, to highlight the divisions. Pointing the finger of blame makes us feel like we’re doing something, anything, otherwise we feel helpless.

Stereotypes play an intriguing role in the human psyche. Our brains are designed to make snap judgments: good or bad, cat or sabre-tooth tiger, friend or foe. But the generalizations aren’t always accurate. The brain works on the basis of ‘probable accuracy, not ‘perfect accuracy’. Freud talked about “undisguised antipathies towards strangers” – it’s what we do.

And yet we can undo it, consciously. We need to challenge our own prejudices at a conscious level. At Trafalgar Square last night I saw non-Muslims shaking hands with Muslims, many who held banners saying ‘Love for All, Hatred for None.’ Studies show that empathy developed towards one member of a stigmatized group will expand to empathy for the group as a whole. This week, more than ever, we need to look beyond the differences and celebrate the things that make us the same as human being – whatever our age, our gender, our sexual orientation, our faith or lack of it, we all want to feel safe, to feel loved and to feel heard. Deep down, we are all the same. [This post originally appeared on the LBC Radio website http://www.lbc.co.uk/hot-topics/westminster-terror... ]

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Lucy Beresford

Hi everyone, great to meet you here. You may know me from my Sex & Relationships show on LBC or you may have read my columns in Psychologies magazine when I was their Agony Aunt for 5 wonderful years. I'm passionate about helping people live the life they dream of. Whether it's through my books https://www.amazon.co.uk/Happy-Relationships-Professional-General-Reference/dp/0077145917/ref=sr_1_4?s=books&ie=UTF8&qid=1497603716&sr=1-4&keywords=Lucy+Beresford, through my show, my coaching or therapy sessions (I'm a qualified psychotherapist) or through The Kindness Club - which I created to generate more kindness in the world - I help people tap into the version of themselves they want to be. I see patients at The Grace Clinic, Belgravia, am an Agony Aunt on ITV’s This Morning and I blog for Huffington Post UK Lifestyle. I'm on the Faculty of The School of Life. Oh, and I'm on Twitter @lucyberesford Get in touch x

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