Identify your Personality Type
Why your response to stress can prevent you living life to the full
Stress is an intrinsic part of life, and much of our activity is a response to it, or an attempt to pre-empt it. Hunger, for example, represents stress at a physical level which we can anticipate and respond to in a more or less healthy way, depending on what habits we have developed and what other stressors are in play at the same time.
Our habits and typical patterns of responding to stressful experiences become part of our personality, but if we restrict ourselves to a small range of responses we can start to miss out on important parts of life.
Gerda Boyesen, pioneer of Biodynamic Psychotherapy, talked about four personality types - Rock, Warrior, Sunshine and Princess on the Pea (from Hans Christian Anderson's tale). Each of them manifests both positive and negative responses to stress, but none of them allows us to live life to the full.
Rock is solid, dependable, always there for you, immovable, hard, cold, unfeeling
Warrior is aggressive, challenging, hates injustice, takes sides, despises tender feelings
Sunshine is warm, puts others at ease, says "I'm fine", ignores unpleasant realities
Princess on the Pea is sensitive, discriminating, vulnerable, easily upset, complaining
If you can identify strongly with just one of these personality types, it's likely that you're missing out on some of what life has to offer, finding relationships difficult or failing to attend to your own authentic needs.
If you'd like to know how Biodynamic Psychotherapy could help you expand your capacity to respond to both stressful and pleasant experiences, and so have a fuller and more satisfying experience of life, please contact me.