Remembering The Kindness Of Women

On International Women's Day Who Are The Women From Your Past and Your Present You'd Like To Say Thank You To On International Women's Day?

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It's International Women's day – Happy International Women’s Day! I’ve been intentionally celebrating International Women's day since 1989 when I landed a job as a Women's training officer in a Women’s Unit in an inner London local authority.

I was a single Mum to my then three months old daughter Aida and I was learning so much about myself and what and how I wanted to contribute to the world.

Two women became pivotal mentors to me at the time and then gradually friends. Their names were Sharon Jennings a phenomenal woman, who’s a facilitator, lecturer and writer and Doreen Baidoo who was also of the same calibre.

It got me thinking about all the women who have touched my life in so many different ways from my primary school teacher Mrs Hinds at junior school, Mrs Higgins my brilliant Sociology lecturer at the then Westminster college in South West London and the Black careers teacher at the same college whose name I think was Rosetta who wouldn't let me off the hook about not wanting to apply for university. At the time I was seriously on the verge of losing focus and direction and her tenacity along with Mrs Higgins helped me get back on track.

There are so many women whom I would like to thank today whose names are not up there in lights. Women who helped steer me on my path. One particular woman, a stranger at the time comes to mind as someone who deeply impacted me as a young teenager. She worked front of desk in an estate agents office in Hackney. I would sometimes accompany my then boyfriend when he visited the office to make his rent payments each week back in the early eighties. Sometimes I would drop the money off for him on my way back home.

On this one day I had arrived at the office alone and before I could even hand over the money to her the receptionist spoke directly to me in a way that got my immediate attention and asked, "Why are you with him. You deserve so much better." I was shocked, as I hadn't seen that coming. She spoke to me for a while afterwards and her words hit home. The relationship was not in a good place. I was not in a good place. I knew the truth and so did she. I am deeply grateful for her courage in speaking out to that day. Her words woke me out of my slumber and I eventually turned my back and walked away from the relationship steering myself towards and into a new and better life direction.

Today why not make time in your day or sometime during this week to remember women from your past or present that on some level have touched your life even in the smallest of ways? If you could send them a message today what would you like to thank them for?

I'd like to thank my first coach Rose whom I met in 1986 when I was working as a full time Youth and Community worker. She helped me open my eyes to my potential and what was possible. The impact of our work has stayed with me all those years. Thank you Rose wherever you are in the world today.

And as we celebrate the lives of women all this week lets remember the magnitude of all women's lives around the world, across continents particularly those suffering in war zones and those battling poverty and harsh living conditions.

Take a moment a minute to breath into the magnitude of difference each of us have made to other women's lives, families partner communities, societies and nations. Breathe into how you will have and will continue to deeply impact others lives in your own sweet phenomenal way. Imagine a world without us? No, I can't either.

Happy Women's day!

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Jackee Holder

Professional & Personal Coach, Author, Speaker & Journal Coach, Life Is A Work In Progress!

I am energised and come alive when I am writing and journaling and over the years I have filled the pages of over one hundred journals. I am a bookaholic and see writers of all genres as part of my natural tribe. I am qualified in many areas of personal development and well-being including a Masters degree in creative writing and personal development from Sussex University and in the completion stages of training as a psychosynthesis counsellor. But by far life and it many bumps, bruises and triumphs continues to be my greatest teacher. Life has been a series of adventures and challenges but creativity has remained a mainstream force of my life. This means that over a period of twenty years I have authored four published books, 49 Ways To Write Yourself Well, Be Your Own Best Life Coach, The Journal Journey Guidebook and Soul Purpose along with numerous workbooks, e-books, free journaling products and articles for a range of journals and magazines. I have recently launched The Inner and Outer Nature Self Discovery deck of cards which brings together my love of journaling and nature. In my professional vocation I work as a corporate coach, coach supervisor and leadership facilitator. I love what I do, no two days are the same and I love how I can bring so much of what brings me alive into this work. I care about our environment and have a deep reverance for trees and nature. I hold nature and journaling as my go to sources of well being and write regularly around the therapeutic benefits of forest bathing, connecting with nature and journaling. Twice a year I open the doors to my online well being journaling class, Paper Therapy. Over five weeks you are immersed in a world of journaling prompts and exercises that empower you to creatively and mindfully grow a daily or weekly journaling practice. You will learn about the therapeutic benefits of journaling and how journaling can help you thrive even when you are challenged and stretched. Paper Therapy I journal regularly, love listening to an eclectic range of podcasts interviews which challenge me to think outside the box. I am an early morning urban city walker and love the quiet hum of the mornings when most of the rest of the world is asleep. I have a real curiosity about trees and tree mythology and love the way trees beautify our and resource the environment. London is my home and for now I feel so lucky to live in the city with the most green parks and spaces in the world. You can find Jackee here: Follow me on my urban walkabouts at Instagram:@jackeeholderinspires @girlabouttown Twitter: @jackeeholder