Imagine A Woman In Love With Herself

When was the first or last time you wrote yourself a love letter to self? In this weeks post coach and writer Jackee Holder suggests writing love letters to self 365 days of the year.

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They say a good poem stays in your body even though you may not have read it or heard it for years. I guess that’s what happened to me two weeks ago when I sat in the room on the first #Happenista17 retreat. The founder of the Happenista Project

the wonderful Jenny Garrett played this video clip Click here to listen to the full version

Watching the video I felt a throbbing familiarity with the words of the poem and found myself writing down certain lines and phrases as I continued to listen. One particular line really stood out,

‘Imagine a woman who has acknowledged the past’s influence on the present.

A woman who has walked through her past.

Who has healed into the present.’

Throughout the day the poem stayed with me as a good poem does and I couldn’t shake it off. It wasn’t long before I had googled the above line only to discover that the poem was in fact very familiar to me. I had purchased some fifteen years prior the book based on of the same name as the poem, Imagine a Woman in Love with Herself authored by Patricia Lynn Reilly and the book was still there on my bookshelf.

Poems have a habit of showing up at the right time In my case becoming recently single again after many years in a long-term partnership I was slowly becoming more at peace with my new found single status even though some days were and continue to be harder than others.

Leading up to Valentines day this year I got back in touch with past bitter and past sweet memories of the day. So this year I’ve decided to take matters into my own hands and to celebrate the day in conscious style so decided I will mark it by writing myself the love letter I’d love to receive.

Yes, that’s right I’m writing me a love letter to self.

But I don’t want to do this alone. So I’d love to invite you if you’re reading this post to come join me. Whether you’re in a relationship or not I believe this letter is a valuable letter to write whatever your relationship status.

I’m thinking about stretching yourself to write yourself the kind of love letter you’d swoon over if it arrived in the post or was handed to you from your most beloved partner or lover. As I enter halfway through the mid life I believe the most important relationships we can ever have is with ourselves. When we get that right I really trust we experience richer, deeper, more intimate and soul filled connections with the divinity and divineness that a part of all of us. And that in and of itself deepens our relationships and connections with our significant others. Trust me I know what I’m talking about here.

I’ve personally acknowledged that before I head back into another relationship in the future I need to get more intimate with the one I’m in right now and I’m actually enjoying and appreciating so much about this healing time on my own. I’m not saying my relationship with self has to be perfect but I do know it really benefits from an investment in a different quality of attention and consciousness that it receives now than it may have gotten in the past.

Whether you’re in an intimate or romantic relationship or not the relationship with yourself is the most important relationship you will ever have. It is so precious and above all it really does deserve cherishing. It really does deserve the greatest care and respect you can give yourself unconditionally. Tend to this relationship with yourself and you can flourish and thrive through almost anything.

It’s important to make space to set aside time in your day to write your letter. Writing it by hand will make it more memorable and meaningful. How about selecting some of the lovely stationary around to scribe your love letter to self on? Love the new letter writing stationary from Paper Chase Not sure where to start or what to say in your love letter to self then here are some tips:

Use verbs to express your love and commitment to yourself even if this is not what you truly believe about yourself.

Use verbs like: I vow, I honour, I devote, I adore, I respect, I respect, I treasure, I celebrate, I cherish, I trust, I love …

Be specific: What do you vow to yourself? What do you honour, adore, respect, treasure, celebrate, cherish, trust, love or celebrate?

Sprinkle your love letter with adjectives that speak to your most beautiful qualities. Exaggerate and accentuate those qualities as you write. Your adjectives might include words like, generous, succulent, bodacious, thoughtful, exciting, sexy, sacred, kind, intuitive, sexy, sacred, kind, brave, courageous, down to earth, big hearted, funny, adventurous, outgoing, stylish, smart.

To give your love letter a bit of ceremony once complete place your letter in a stamped addressed envelope and pop it into the post box. It will be lovely to receive your letter back through the post a few days later then you can enjoy the delights of opening and reading back what you wrote. Notice how it feels in your body reading your words back to yourself.

If you’re reading this post after Valentines day (which is of course today) then you can still write your love letter to self because love letters to self can be written on any of the 365 days of the year. That way you can make every day a potential valentine.

On March 6th in celebration of International Women’s day on March 8TH we begin a new round of Paper Therapy –the art and craft of finding onself. This six-week online multi-media journal writing programme is a creative writing space for women to journal, dream, reflect and make the desired changes you long for by deepening your understanding of self through writing and journaling. Paper Therapy is a multi-media journaling experience where you’ll learn a range of journal writing techniques and approaches. Paper Therapy is a virtual learning space where you work on the dreams and goals you never find the time to pay quality attention to.

We have a 241 offer until 28th February 2017 so you can bring along a friend for free. Click here to read more and join the class:

Jackee Holder

Professional & Personal Coach, Author, Speaker & Journal Coach, Life Is A Work In Progress!

I am energised and come alive when I am writing and journaling and over the years I have filled the pages of over one hundred journals. I am a bookaholic and see writers of all genres as part of my natural tribe. I am qualified in many areas of personal development and well-being including a Masters degree in creative writing and personal development from Sussex University and in the completion stages of training as a psychosynthesis counsellor. But by far life and it many bumps, bruises and triumphs continues to be my greatest teacher. Life has been a series of adventures and challenges but creativity has remained a mainstream force of my life. This means that over a period of twenty years I have authored four published books, 49 Ways To Write Yourself Well, Be Your Own Best Life Coach, The Journal Journey Guidebook and Soul Purpose along with numerous workbooks, e-books, free journaling products and articles for a range of journals and magazines. I have recently launched The Inner and Outer Nature Self Discovery deck of cards which brings together my love of journaling and nature. In my professional vocation I work as a corporate coach, coach supervisor and leadership facilitator. I love what I do, no two days are the same and I love how I can bring so much of what brings me alive into this work. I care about our environment and have a deep reverance for trees and nature. I hold nature and journaling as my go to sources of well being and write regularly around the therapeutic benefits of forest bathing, connecting with nature and journaling. Twice a year I open the doors to my online well being journaling class, Paper Therapy. Over five weeks you are immersed in a world of journaling prompts and exercises that empower you to creatively and mindfully grow a daily or weekly journaling practice. You will learn about the therapeutic benefits of journaling and how journaling can help you thrive even when you are challenged and stretched. Paper Therapy I journal regularly, love listening to an eclectic range of podcasts interviews which challenge me to think outside the box. I am an early morning urban city walker and love the quiet hum of the mornings when most of the rest of the world is asleep. I have a real curiosity about trees and tree mythology and love the way trees beautify our and resource the environment. London is my home and for now I feel so lucky to live in the city with the most green parks and spaces in the world. You can find Jackee here: Follow me on my urban walkabouts at Instagram:@jackeeholderinspires @girlabouttown Twitter: @jackeeholder