Avoiding The Life Coach ‘Guru Trap’
Now that the 'New Year, New You' fads and hype are well and truly behind us, we find ourselves faced with the reality of our happiness levels and quality of life. If you have been considering hiring a mentor or a life coach, here is my ESSENTIAL, no holds barred guide to gaining the most from working with one.
If in this moment you feel stuck in a job, relationship, country or career you dislike to the point that you can feel the life force draining out of you every minute of every day, chances are that right now, you are dreaming of creating a big, dramatic life change.
How wonderful it would be...
If only you knew how.
I know this because I have, and many of my clients, colleagues and friends have been there too.
If you have been considering hiring a life coach or mentor to help bring your deepest desires to fruition, I want to give you the inside scoop on what you can reasonably expect from working with one. I know that if you take my advice to heart, it will immediately begin saving you a lot of money, heartache and time.
My work as a Professional Clairvoyant and Spiritual Mentor is all about helping real, everyday, earnest folks create lasting happiness, freedom, fulfilment and alignment in their lives. In my personal and professional experience over the past 15 years, here is what I have come to know:
- Success and happiness are first and foremost, an inner job
- There is no guru or magic bullet - nothing that anyone will come along and suggest you do, without the deep inner work to back it up - that will profoundly and permanently change your outer life
- No one else really knows the unhappiness, emotional turmoil and pain you’re going through
- No one is going to rescue or save you
- No one is going to ‘do the work’ for you, let you off the hook or give you an easy ride
- No one knows you or what feels like a good ‘fit’ in your life better than you do
- You don’t have to figure it out all on your own
In fact, with regards to the last point, this mindset of stubbornness and martyrdom is often deeply rooted in long held beliefs such as “I can’t afford to hire a coach” and/or “Yes, I want change but deep down, I don’t really see how it can happen for me.”.
Be forewarned that as a start, you are better off committing to getting to the root of these limiting beliefs.
And, I am going to let you in on one more critical truth here:
Taking the decision to go it alone or not be an action taker and wait for a bolt of lighting to strike and magically transform your life, is the longest, hardest, most stressful, unhappy and expensive route to ‘transformation’ you can take.
And the sad thing is that nothing ever changes. No one who follows this route ever gets any different outcome in the end.
The next thing you need to know is that different coaches have different business models and ways in which they deliver their best work.
In my boutique-style practice, there is no hierarchy or coaching ‘team’. There is just me. My clients are high-level, VIP clients because they have already been ‘round the houses’ with lower level/ lower cost offerings and have come full circle because they truly 'get' it - that the root of their challenge is that they have lost and must find, fully reclaim, appreciate and celebrate their real Selves once again. By the time they get to me, they have been down the alluring, shiny paths of promise and realise that their place of greatest impact and power has been there all the while, lying dormant within themselves.
I personally have never seen powerful, life changing 1:1 support being offered as part of no and low cost coaching packages, promotions or ‘deals’. There really is no such thing as something for nothing and in the personal development world, this couldn’t be more true.
The bottom line here is that to change your life, you are going to need proper guidance and support because what you have been doing on your own up to this point hasn’t been getting you the results you need.
You have reached an impasse and more than anything, you need a work-around…a paradigm shift in the way you view yourself and your world.
This is exactly what a brilliant mentor or life-coach will provide you with - from Day 1.
But in order to leave your old, unhappy life behind, the reality is that you must be ready to invest.
You have to really understand that the cost of investing in your happiness, your life and yourself is actually priceless and that bargaining for your growth serves no one.
Least of all, you.
- Believe you are ready and worth it
- Are willing to trust yourself to step beyond your comfort edge and land safely on the other side
- Understand that the coach you have thoroughly researched and have in mind is providing a very bespoke, expert container for you to more fully know and experience your full potential and TRUTH
- Are willing to allocate the necessary funds, and
- Take ultimate responsibility for your decisions and fate,
There is nothing that can compare to the level of transformation you will receive.
Finally, as a recipient of mentorship and/or life coaching, you will gain the most benefit if you:
1. Are willing to suspend your disbelief and be open to guidance and new perspectives
In a powerful transformational space based on mutual trust and respect, many of my clients begin to discover how much personal liberation and choice is available to them - and always has been - once they release their hold on what they think they know and begin to allow their long-held assumptions and beliefs to wobble and shift.
2. Allow the guidance you receive to shine a light on what your own intuition is saying about what is true for you right now
There is no cookie cutter method you or any coach can apply, to craft for you, a meaningful, happy, fulfilling life. Your beautiful life naturally begins to unfold once, with the help of your coach, you’ve gotten in touch with your inner wisdom and identified the cornerstones and characteristics of your nature, history and life that make you unique. Consciously grounding into and growing these cornerstones through intuitively guided mini-goals (as opposed to familial and societal ones you have haphazardly been assigned) is how you kick off your process of transformation and truly begin living a life that you love.