Week37: If I had all the money in the world...

A practical wake up to how life is now...

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Sep 03, 2016
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I don't often let myself think of how life would be with all the money I could ever want. Why? Well firstly I am acutely aware that there are people only a few miles from me who live in real poverty. I have had to bring in food from home to feed students of mine, or buy them books from charity shops as they are given nothing. So for me to start cherry-picking house styles, second homes, clothing brands...it feels uncomfortable. Another reason is that I know money would improve our lives drastically and I don’t want to be negative about what we already have. But I put these concerns aside and I decided to trust in this experiment to see what came up.

If I had this money I would: get us a bigger house with a granny annex; pay for a lovely live in carer for my mum; put money aside for the children’s future – not a huge amount, but enough to start them off on a secure footing. I would love a second home by the sea and the opportunity to work part time. I would by a workshop for my husband so he can practise his carpentry whenever he wanted to. And I would give money to local causes - specially to support children with additional needs or living in reduced circumstances.

What I wouldn’t do is: leave our home town, pay everything for my kids, have plastic surgery, travel the globe or want a fancy car. I wouldn’t want to change my friends or even my job. BUT what is undeniable is that money would by time, space and security.

On reflection, I am pleased I undertook this experiment. It has allowed me to feel very proud of some of the fundamental choices I have made in my life: where we live, my spouse, my job, my friends…. but it has also allowed me to acknowledge what perhaps needs to be our priorities going forward. I will almost certainly not win the lottery, but we can save for our security, seek support in looking after mum, and work towards part time work.

So I would definitely recommend this exercise, perhaps even to do as a whole family. What you are really doing is assessing your priorities as well as facing up to who you have become. Thanks Chris, because without this nudge I wouldn’t have looked at my life this way. I have come to learn that even if an experiment doesn’t grab you straight away, it is worth giving it a go and trusting in the process. Enlightenment may follow!

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Jacqui

Mother, wife, daughter, teacher...

Firmly stuck in the 'sandwich generation' category, I am 46 years old and looking to shake things up a bit! I am a teacher, which I love - but it takes over your life! A mother of three - two daughters, 16 and 15, a son aged 11. Wife to Simon for 19 years. Carer for rather eccentric mum, aged 89.

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Vanessa over 1 year ago

Jacqui, spot on as always! Funny how playing "if money was no object" really can help you see what's really important, and I also think we have a lot in common in our attitude toward money. You're high on my list of people I'd love to have a cup of tea with some time!

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Jacqui over 1 year ago

Vanessa we should do it! I think it would be lovely to meet. Let's plan a wake up bloggers met up!

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Vanessa over 1 year ago

I'm definitely up for that - if we picked somewhere central with good train service then maybe we can get the people living further out from London?

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Jacqui over 1 year ago

Shall contact Chris's Vanessa and ask her to pass on my e mail to the other bloggers. Anyone else up for it can reply and we'll take it from there?

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Vanessa over 1 year ago

Perfect!

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Jacqui over 1 year ago

It is done!

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Chris Baréz-Brown over 1 year ago

Nice one Jacqui and so glad that diving into the experiment worked out so well. Vanessa and I will chat later today and work out a plan of action for a Wake Up bloggers meet! Huge love C x

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Ffi Ffi Trixibelle over 1 year ago

Jacqui, again a really moving post. So agree with you on how lucky we actually are. Yes lets meet up :)

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Mark Cuddy over 1 year ago

Nice post Jacqui. Just like me, I can see that you're not money-minded and appreciate what you've already got. This is nice to read and to realise there are others out there who don't think money is the be all and end all of everything.